1. Relationships Daily Reflection Write down all the qualities you want in a relationship.

2. Positive Relationships help you: Meet emotional needs: love and acceptance Enrich your life: Share experiences, feelings, and ideas. Help you get things done: Help and support from others

3. Elements in Relationships Constructive Elements Meet the needs of both people in the relationship. Leads to improvement and is supportive.

4. CONSTRUCTIVE Self-esteem—Measure of how much a person values themselves  Responsibility for self—each individual wants to reach their potential

5. Constructive  Flexibility—allowing for and expecting change  Trust—both partners act in each other’s best interest.

6. CONSTRUCTIVE  Honesty—revealing who & what we are, as well as our feelings. Many people find this difficult.

7. CONTSTRUCTIVE  Communication—Ability to exchange information, thoughts & feelings. Necessary for intimacy.

8. Destructive Elements Sabotage relationships and create unhappiness. In order to improve, both people must be motivated to change.

9. DESTRUCTIVE  Jealousy—fear of losing someone’s love and suspicion of possible rivals. Degree of insecurity, low self-esteem and dependency.

10. DESTRUCTIVE  Overdependency—state in which person relies on another to fulfill all emotional or physical needs. Independence is viewed as a threat.

11. Destructive  Selfishness—having little or no concern for others. Unfulfilled person likely to want to end relationship.

12. Destructive  Control—Person needs power over the relationship and behavior of other person. One person makes all the decisions. This can develop into abuse.

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14. Destructive  Abuse—physical or emotional mistreatment. Widespread problem that affects people of all ethnic and economic groups.

15. DESTRUCTIVE – Not necessarily physical. Attacks on a person’s character, ability, or dignity are abusive. Involves actual harm or threat of harm. Females more likely to be victims. –

16. DESTRUCTIVE – Symptoms: depression, lowered self-esteem, and fear. Difficult to end relationship because of fear.

17. DESTRUCTIVE Abuse can be overcome by: – Recognizing the problem Seeking help from family members, counselors, or community agencies

18. DESTRUCTIVE – Leaving the relationship if necessary

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