2. CYBER BULLYING ‘Demystifying and Deescalating Cyber Bullying’ Barbara Trolley, Ph.D. CRC Connie Hanel, M.S.E.d & Linda Shields, M.S.E.d.

4. What we learned… Bullying is sometimes verbal… Bullying is sometimes emotional…

5. We also learned… Bullying can be sexual harassment… making fun of someone.

6. CYBER BULLYING IS… Being cruel to others by sending or posting harmful material using technological means; an individual or group that uses information and communication involving electronic technologies to facilitate deliberate and repeated harassment or threat to an individual or group. Also known as: ‘Electronic Bullying’ & ‘Online Social Cruelty’

7. CYBER BULLIES’ TECHNOLOGY  E-mail  Cell phones  Pager text messages  Instant messaging  Defamatory personal web sites  Defamatory online personal polling web sites  Chat rooms

8. DIFFERENCES BULLYING DIRECT Occurs on school property Poor relationships with teachers Fear retribution Physical: Hitting, Punching & Shoving Verbal: Teasing, Name calling & Gossip Nonverbal: Use of gestures & Exclusion www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov CYBERBULLYING ANONYMOUS Occurs off school property Good relationships with teachers Fear loss of technology privileges Further under the radar than bullying Emotional reactions cannot be determined {McKenna & Bargh, 2004; Ybarra & Mitchell, 2004}

9. CYBER BULLY CATEGORIES “Inadvertent”  Role-play  Responding  May not realize it’s cyber bullying “Vengeful Angel”  Righting wrongs  Protecting themselves “Mean Girls”  Bored; Entertainment  Ego based; promote own social status  Often do in a group  Intimidate on and off line  Need others to bully; if isolated, stop “Power-Hungry”  Want reaction  Controlling with fear “Revenge of the Nerds” (“Subset of Power-Hungry”)  Often Victims of school-yard bullies  Throw ‘cyber-weight’ around  Not school-yard bullies like Power-Hungry & Mean Girls {Parry Aftab. Esq., Executive Director, WiredSafety.org}

10. CYBER BULLYING TYPES “Flaming’: Online fights using electronic messages with angry and vulgar language “Harassment”: Repeatedly sending offensive, rude, and insulting messages “Cyber stalking”: Repeatedly sending messages that include threats of harm or are highly intimidating. Engaging in other on-line activities that make a person afraid for his or her own safety “Denigration”: ‘Dissing’ someone online. Sending or posting cruel gossip or rumors about a person to damage his or her reputation or friendships

11. CYBER BULLYING TYPES “Impersonation”: Pretending to be someone else and sending or posting material online that makes that person look bad, gets that person in trouble or danger, or damages that person’s reputation or friendships “Outing and Trickery”: Sharing someone’s secret or embarrassing information online. Tricking someone into revealing secrets or embarrassing information which is then shared online “Exclusion”: Intentionally excluding someone from an on-line group, like a ‘buddy list’ {Nancy Willard, M.S., J.D., Director of the Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use}

12. CYBER BULLYING STATISTICS *Taken from an i-SAFE America survey of students nationwide.

13. Gaining acceptance by having recognition in the community… Newspaper article Local TV Local Radio Program Community groups

14. Effects of Bullying People who are bullied: Have higher risk of depression and anxiety including these symptoms that may persist into adulthood: -Increased feelings of sadness and loneliness -Changes in sleep and eating patterns -Loss of interest in activities May have increased thoughts about suicide Are more likely to have health complaints Are more likely to retaliate through extreme violent measures. stopbullying.gov.,2011

15. More Effects of Bullying People Who Bully Others: Have a higher risk of abusing alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults. Are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school. Are more likely to have convictions and traffic citations as adults. Are more likely to be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses or children as adults. stopbullying.gov.,2011

16. The victim of cyber bullying The victim of cyber bullying

17. Warning signs of cyberbullying bully or victim: 1. Quickly switches screens or closes programs when someone walks by 2. Uses the computer or phone until all hours of the night 3. Gets unusually upset if she/he cannot use the computer or phone or after using the computer 4. Laughs excessively while using the computer 5. Appears nervous or jumpy when an IM message appears. 6. Avoids discussions about what they are doing on the computer 7. Becomes withdrawn from friends and family

18. CURRENT CYBER BULLYING PROGRAMS & RESPONSES What Everyone Needs to Know About Cyber bullying’ (Aftab) Education of Children: All actions have consequences Cyber bullying hurts They are just being used and manipulated by cyber bully Cyber bully and accomplices often become the target of cyber bullying themselves Care about others and stand up for what’s right

19. Statistics – Napa County, CA 2007 87% of teens age 12-17 use the internet. 47% of children have received emails with links to pornographic websites. 95% of parents cannot identify common chat room lingo. 1 in 4 sixth grade students have become friends with a stranger online and 1 in 10 have attempted to meet an online friend face to face. 86% of girls say they can chat online without their parents’ permission. 28% of teens say they use code words on a daily basis to hide their online conversations from their parents. The Parent, Educator and Community Action Guide

20. Gaining acceptance by having recognition in the community… Newspaper article Local TV Local Radio Program Community groups

21. Effects of Bullying People who are bullied: Have higher risk of depression and anxiety including these symptoms that may persist into adulthood: -Increased feelings of sadness and loneliness -Changes in sleep and eating patterns -Loss of interest in activities May have increased thoughts about suicide Are more likely to have health complaints Are more likely to retaliate through extreme violent measures. stopbullying.gov.,2011

22. More Effects of Bullying People Who Bully Others: Have a higher risk of abusing alcohol and other drugs in adolescence and as adults. Are more likely to get into fights, vandalize property, and drop out of school. Are more likely to have convictions and traffic citations as adults. Are more likely to be abusive toward their romantic partners, spouses or children as adults. stopbullying.gov.,2011

23. Still More Effects of Bullying People Who Witness Bullying: May have increased use of tobacco, alcohol or other drugs. May have increased mental health problems, including depression and anxiety. Are more likely to miss or skip school. STOP! WALK! TALK! stopbullying.gov, 2011

24. Warning signs of cyberbullying bully or victim: 1. Quickly switches screens or closes programs when someone walks by 2. Uses the computer or phone until all hours of the night 3. Gets unusually upset if she/he cannot use the computer or phone or after using the computer 4. Laughs excessively while using the computer 5. Appears nervous or jumpy when an IM message appears. 6. Avoids discussions about what they are doing on the computer 7. Becomes withdrawn from friends and family

25. CURRENT CYBER BULLYING PROGRAMS & RESPONSES Comprehensive Plan (Willard, 2005) Schools  Policies concerning misuse of technology  Evaluate how staff is and can more effectively monitor Internet use Parents  Discuss cyber bullying  Supervise and increase effective monitoring of Internet use Since more adults supervise, more children will hide activities, strategies needed to change social norms in these on-line works, empower the victim with knowledge how to prevent & respond, & to discourage bullies from engaging in such activities

26. Fatal Results of Cyberbullying……. 14 year old Jamey Rodemeyer struggled with his sexuality and was repeatedly bullied at school and online. He posted an “It Gets Better” video on YouTube seemingly trying to convince himself as well as others that his situation would improve. Several anonymous comments on his Formspring page encouraged him to kill himself! He did on September 19, 2011.

27. CURRENT CYBER BULLYING ASSESSMENT What Everyone Needs to Know About Cyber bullying’ (Aftab) Assessment to differentiate between ‘rude communications’ and ‘cyber bullying’: 1- Kind of Threats 2- Frequency of Threat 3- Source of Threats 4- Nature of the Threats … The more frequent, the greater the threat, the mention of more dangerous methods & the involvement of third parties tends to increase the seriousness of the threat Knowing the cyber bully may increase or decrease the threat

28. Another Fatal Example… Fifteen year old Phoebe Prince of South Hadley, Massachusetts, committed suicide after experiencing months of bullying and cyberbullying, which included name-calling (e.g., “Irish Slut”) on Facebook and Twitter. (January 14, 2010.)

29. CYBER BULLYING PREVALENCE Cyber bullying typically starts at about 9 years of age and usually ends after 14 years of age; after 14, it becomes cyber or sexual harassment due to nature of acts and age of actors {Aftab} Affects 65-85% of kids in the core group directly or indirectly through close friends (Aftab)