2. How many of you regretted of being born into your family? How many of you are grateful that you were born into your family? How many of you are not sure- whether to regret or thankful of being born in your family?

3. Session I THE BIG PICTURE Session I THE BIG PICTURE 1.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 2.What God Wants Us to Know About The Responsibility of Parenting 3.Characteristics of Effective Parents 4.The Goal of Biblical Parenting

4. Session II HOW TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE OUR CHILDREN Session II HOW TO POSITIVELY INFLUENCE OUR CHILDREN 1. Good Modeling 2. Good Relationship 3. Time 4. Listen 5. Positive Words 6. Unconditional Love 7. Expect the best

5. Session III HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY Session III HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN EFFECTIVELY 1. Purpose of Discipline 2. The Basis of Discipline 3. What to Discipline Our Child For 4. How to Spank Our Child 5. Training Teenagers 6. Training Young Ones

6. Session IV BASIC BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN TO PREPARE THEM TO FACE THE WORLD. Session IV BASIC BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES TO TEACH YOUR CHILDREN TO PREPARE THEM TO FACE THE WORLD. 1. About themselves 2. About Family 3. About Friends 4. About the World 5. About God

7. SESSION V Helping Your Children Internalize Biblical Values SESSION V Helping Your Children Internalize Biblical Values 1. Restoring Your Relationship with Your Children 2. Establishing their Relationship with God

8. We may not be able to influence our but we can influence our The world’s school system does not offer any course on We learn parenting from our and from others. Sad to say, the model of our parents’ style may not always be We may not be able to influence our but we can influence our The world’s school system does not offer any course on We learn parenting from our and from others. Sad to say, the model of our parents’ style may not always be THE BIG PICTURE ANCESTORS DESCENDANTS. PARENTING. PARENTS BIBLICAL. INTRODUCTION

9. I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children THE BIG PICTURE 1.Our children are Psalm 127:3 – Behold, children are a gift of the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward. VALUABLE.

10. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 2.Our children have Matthew 6:31-32 – 31 “Do not be anxious then, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘With what shall we clothe ourselves?’ 32 For all these things the Gentiles eagerly seek; for your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. NEEDS.

11. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 2.Our children have needs. needs. NEEDS. PHYSICAL EMOTIONAL SPIRITUAL A good father/mother knows the needs of his children.

12. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 3.Our children need to be “almost” Proverbs 1:8 – “Hear my son your father’s instruction, and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.” TAUGHT EVERYTHING.

13. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 4.Our children are designed by God. Psalm 139:13-14 – 13 For Thou didst form my inward parts; Thou didst weave me in my mother’s womb. 14 I will give thanks to Thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Thy works, and my soul knows it very well. UNIQUELY

14. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 5.Our children have a problem. Jeremiah 17:9 – “The heart is more deceitful than all else and is desperately sick; who can understand it?” Proverbs 22:15 – “Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child…” “HEART”

15. THE BIG PICTURE I.What God Wants Us To Know About Our Children 6.Our children need to have a personal with God. 7.Our children are not “RELATIONSHIP” “ROBOTS.”

16. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 1.Parents are responsible to their children. TRAIN Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”

17. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 1.Parents are responsible to their children.. Parenting is a task assigned by God. Parenting is a task assigned by God. Parents may try to delegate the task but they cannot abdicate the responsibility. Parents may try to delegate the task but they cannot abdicate the responsibility. TRAIN SACRED

18. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 2.Parents are not totheir children. Colossians 3:21 – “Fathers, do not exasperate your children, that they may not lose heart.” Ephesians 6:4 “…Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” EXASPERATE

19. THE BIG PICTURE UnrealisticUnrealistic rules rules Failure to themFailure to them VerbalVerbal Failure to keepFailure to keep expectations Unreasonable train Impatience, temper abuse commitments Hypocrisy Inconsistency Parents exasperate and provoke their children by:

20. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 3.Good Parenting is not Passing on an is different from passing on a Passing on an is different from passing on a AUTOMATIC. OCCUPATION GODLY HERITAGE.

21. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting PRIESTS. Eli’s family was a family of 1 Samuel 1:3 – …And the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas were priests to the Lord there. KNOW The example of Eli and his sons. Eli’s sons did not of the Lord. 1 Samuel 2:12 – Now the sons of Eli were worthless men; they did not know the Lord

22. Eli was a father who was present but uninvolved with his sons. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting PHYSICALLY 1 Samuel 2:22-24 – 22 Now Eli was very old; & he heard all that his sons were doing to all Israel, and how they lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting. 23 And he said to them, “Why do you do such things, the evil things that I hear from all these people? 24 “No, my sons; for the report is not good which I hear the Lord’s people…

23. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 3.Good Parenting is not Passing on an occupation is different from passing on a godly heritage. Passing on an occupation is different from passing on a godly heritage. We pass on our not our We pass on our not our AUTOMATIC EXAMPLE SERMONS.

24. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting It is not It takes so we have to be patient. There is no to parenting. PROCESS. INSTANTANEOUS. SHORTCUT TIME 4. Parenting is a Galatians 4:19 – “My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you…”

25. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 5.Parenting takes Proverbs 13:24 – “…He who loves him, disciplines him diligently.” We need toWe need to DILIGENCE. PERSEVERE.

26. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting James 1:5 – “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God who gives to all men generously…” Each child is We need to become a of our children. We need to We need to be WISDOM. DIFFERENT. STUDENT PLAN. INTENTIONAL. 6.Parenting takes God’s

27. THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 7.Parenting has consequences. LASTING The sins of the parents are usually passed on to the children.The sins of the parents are usually passed on to the children. The godly traits of the parents are often passed on to the children.The godly traits of the parents are often passed on to the children.

28. Exodus 20:5 “Visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children on the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing lovingkindness to thousands of those who love me and keep my commandments.” THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 7.Parenting has consequences. LASTING

29. Example: God’s judgment on Eli and his house. 1 Samuel 3:12-14 – 12 “In that day I will carry out against Eli all that I have spoken concerning his house, from beginning to end. 13 For I have told him that I am about to judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knew, because his sons brought a curse on themselves and he did not rebuke them. 14 And therefore I have sworn to the house of Eli that the iniquity of Eli’s house shall not be atoned for by sacrifice or offering forever.” THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting

30. Juke FamilyJonathan Edwards Family THE BIG PICTURE II.What God Wants Us To Know About Parenting 1,200 descendants traced 1,200 descendants traced 400 - physically self- wrecked400 - physically self- wrecked 310 – prof. paupers 310 – prof. paupers 130 - convicted criminals 130 - convicted criminals 60 - habitual thieves 60 - habitual thieves 7- -murderers 7- -murderers 20 - learned a trade, half of whom owed it to prison discipline 20 - learned a trade, half of whom owed it to prison discipline 400 descendants traced 400 descendants traced 14 - college presidents 14 - college presidents 100 - professors 100 - professors 100 - ministers of the Gospel, missionaries, Bible teachers 100 - ministers of the Gospel, missionaries, Bible teachers 100 - lawyers 100 - lawyers 60 - doctors 60 - doctors Many authors Many authors

31. Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – 1 “Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it, 2 so that you and your son and your grandson might fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged.” THE BIG PICTURE III.What God Wants Us To Know About The Characteristics of Effective Parents

32. THE BIG PICTURE 1.They __________ God. 2.They __________ God. 3.They __________ God’s Word. 4.They __________ God’s Word. 5.They __________ God’s Word. 6.They __________ on God. KNOW LOVE KNOW LIVE OUT TEACH DEPEND III.What God Wants Us To Know About The Characteristics of Effective Parents “Problematic children are often the product of problematic parents.”

33. Psalm 78:5-7 – 5 For He established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which He commanded our fathers, that they should teach them to their children, 6 that the generation to come might know, even the children yet to be born, that they may arise and tell them to their children, 7 that they should put their confidence in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep His commandments. THE BIG PICTURE IV. The Goal of Biblical Parenting 1. To pass on a godly to the next HERITAGE GENERATION.

34. Deuteronomy 6:1-2 – 1 ”Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it, 2 so that you and your son and your grandson might fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life…” THE BIG PICTURE IV. The Goal of Biblical Parenting 1. To pass on a godly to the next HERITAGE GENERATION.

35. THE BIG PICTURE IV. The Goal of Biblical Parenting 1. To pass on a godly to the next HERITAGE GENERATION

36. THE BIG PICTURE IV. The Goal of Biblical Parenting 2.To develop children to reach their God- given potential – Luke 2:52 – And Jesus kept increasing in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men. MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY,PHYSICALLY, SPIRITUALLY, and SOCIALLY.

37. THE BIG PICTURE IV. The Goal of Biblical Parenting 3.To help our children grow into Galatians 4:19 – “My children, with whom I am again in labor until Christ is formed in you.” CHRISTLIKENESS. “It is easier to build children than to repair adults.”

38. REFLECTION REFLECTION Session I THE BIG PICTURE Session I THE BIG PICTURE 1.D o we really know by heart what God wants us to know about our children? 2.A re we willing to know and commit with all our heart to do what God wants us to know about the Responsibilities of Parenting? 3.D o we reflect the characteristics of effective parents? 4.A re we intentional in pursuing the goals of biblical parenting?

39. Do you feel somehow in your heart that you failed one way or the other your child/ren? Do you feel somehow in your heart that you failed one way or the other your child/ren? It’s not yet late … GOD is giving you another chance to DO IT OVER ONE MORE TIME. First, rekindle your love to your spouse- the father or mother of your children. Second, become a godly parent by following what the Scriptures says. “Remember, it is easier to build children than to repair adults.”