1. PREVENTION DIMENSION

2.  WHO? WHAT? WHERE? WHEN? HOW? AND WHY?  ASK QUESTIONS TO SEE IF THERE IS TROUBLE…  KEY PHRASES:  A. IS IT OKAY WITH YOUR PARENTS?  B. DO YOU HAVE ANY MONEY?

3.  NAME THE TROUBLE TO HELP THE PERSON THINK ABOUT WHAT HE/SHE IS REALLY ASKING YOU TO DO.  WORDS SUCH AS:  SHOPLIFTING, ASSAULT, VANDALISM, AND TRESPASSING COULD MEAN LEGAL TROUBLE  THINGS SUCH AS “MAKING FUN OF SOMEONE” MAY NOT BE ILLEGAL BUT ARE MEAN  IT MAY BE DANGEROUS OR JUST PLAIN WRONG  KEY PHRASES:  “THAT’S MEAN”  “THAT’S ILLEGAL”

4.  STATE THE CONSEQUENCES TO HELP THE PERSON THINK ABOUT WHAT COULD HAPPEN.  THERE ARE A VARIETY OF CONSEQUENCES:  PHYSICAL, LEGAL, SOCIAL  PROBLEMS FOR OTHERS AND FOR YOU  KEY PHRASES:  “IF I DID THAT I COULD GET HURT”  “IF I DID THAT I JUST WOULDN’T FEEL RIGHT ABOUT IT”  “IF I DID THAT, MY MOTHER WOULD BE SO MAD”

5. LET YOUR FRIEND KNOW YOU AREN’T REJECTING HIM/HER- JUST THE “TROUBLE” KEY PHRASE: “LET’S GO PLAY BASKETBALL” “LETS GO GET SOMETHING TO EAT” “LET’S STAY HOME AND PLAY GAMES”

6.  MOVE IT MEANS YOU START WALKING AWAY  SELL IT MEANS YOU MAKE YOUR ALTERNATE IDEA SOUND APPEALING-  KEY PHRASES:  “HEY, I KNOW WHAT WE CAN DO!”  “LETS DO THIS INSTEAD, IT WOULD BE AWESOME!”  LEAVE THE DOOR OPEN BY INVITING THE PERSON TO COME WITH YOU

7.  STAY CALM  SAY THE PERSON’S NAME, MAKE EYE CONTACT AND SAY “LISTEN TO ME”  PAUSE TO SEE IF THE PERSON IS LISTENING  IF THEY ARE LISTENING, CONTINUE TO USE THE REFUSAL SKILLS  IF NOT LISTENING, THEN LEAVE SAYING SOMETHING LIKE “I’LL SEE YOU LATER