1. Forming Intimate Relationships

2. intimate relationships are and have been the base of many movies, sit coms, tv shows etc intimate relationships are and have been the base of many movies, sit coms, tv shows etc Think even of Romeo and Juliet

3. According to the Functionalists North Americans have a diversity of roles that they can play - ‘choices’ about marriage, non-marriage etcNorth Americans have a diversity of roles that they can play - ‘choices’ about marriage, non-marriage etc individuals must decide who to marry, whether to marry or not, and even what their marriage will be likeindividuals must decide who to marry, whether to marry or not, and even what their marriage will be like

4. the bottom line is that people worry about whether or not they will be able to form a satisfying relationship that will last a lifetime, without having to give up who they are and who they want to bethe bottom line is that people worry about whether or not they will be able to form a satisfying relationship that will last a lifetime, without having to give up who they are and who they want to be

5. Types of Marriage Today there are many different ‘kinds of marriage: polygamy - marriage between 1 man and 2 or more women polyandry - marriage between 1 woman and 2 or more men polyandry - marriage between 1 woman and 2 or more men

6. Serial monogamy - the trend in Western society for men or women to have a series of spouses one after the otherSerial monogamy - the trend in Western society for men or women to have a series of spouses one after the other

7. What effect do you think that immigration and the exposure to ‘other’ ideas has had on the North American traditional idea of marriage?

8. Key questions for this chapter What is the nature of sexual attraction, mate selection, and romantic love?What is the nature of sexual attraction, mate selection, and romantic love? What is the relationship between attraction and marriage roles?What is the relationship between attraction and marriage roles? How do couples negotiate satisfying roles in their relationships?How do couples negotiate satisfying roles in their relationships? What are the factors that are determined to forming enduring relationships?What are the factors that are determined to forming enduring relationships? How do couples manage conflict in their relationships?How do couples manage conflict in their relationships?

9. Attraction, Mate Selection and Romance Do most Canadians have the ‘idea’ or assumption that intimate relationships are based on romantic love and sexual attraction between 2 people?Do most Canadians have the ‘idea’ or assumption that intimate relationships are based on romantic love and sexual attraction between 2 people? Many marriages are based on free-choice mate selection, meaning that individuals make personal choices and let ‘nature’ take its course – meet someone you are attracted to, you fall in love and then decide to get marriedMany marriages are based on free-choice mate selection, meaning that individuals make personal choices and let ‘nature’ take its course – meet someone you are attracted to, you fall in love and then decide to get married

10. Romantic love Marriage probably had its root in the biological need to reproduceMarriage probably had its root in the biological need to reproduce Anthropologists and sociologists are still deciding whether or not romantic love is a new concept or whether love has a basis in human biologyAnthropologists and sociologists are still deciding whether or not romantic love is a new concept or whether love has a basis in human biology Marriage has become the basic social and economic unit in human societiesMarriage has become the basic social and economic unit in human societies

11. Romantic Love – a Hindrance? In many societies today, romantic love has been considered a hindrance to marital stabilityIn many societies today, romantic love has been considered a hindrance to marital stability Why do you think that is, and, do you agree?Why do you think that is, and, do you agree? Marilyn Yalom, of Stanford University suggests that if a man and woman who lived and worked together would eventually grow to love each other, regardless of how their marriage came aboutMarilyn Yalom, of Stanford University suggests that if a man and woman who lived and worked together would eventually grow to love each other, regardless of how their marriage came about

12. Theories of Mate Selection Read the text book from pages 192 – 196Read the text book from pages 192 – 196 Fill out the chartFill out the chart