1. Putting Together Your Puzzle Presented By WENDY KAUFMAN

2. Objectives  What makes me happy?  How do I feel  Physically?  Emotionally?  Dream list

3. Goal Setting  Specific  Measurable  Achievable  Realistic  Time line  Short: 0 -1 year  Medium: 1-3 years  Long: 3 years +

4. Will Power  Will power is active only in 1/6 th of your brain.  5/6 th of your brain power is at the non- conscious level. Thus you are unable to control it.  However, scientific research has found that you are able to control all 6 parts of your brain.  So, learn to control the non-conscious thinking by putting your brain on autopilot.  This will enable you to keep yourself motivated !

5. Avoid Procrastination  A 50% average in making good decisions is a good record.  Many people are not good problem solvers, but they are good decision makers.  Learn to analyze facts quickly, make a decision, and then learn to live with the results!

6. Happiness  Intent  Accountability  Grass is greener…  Do what you like and do it more  Tragedies  Moving on and upward  Example: lottery winners one year later-- many say they are less happy

7. Happiness  Never give up  Don’t dwell on the past  Embrace change  Embrace fear  What are you afraid of?  What would help you cope better?  Options  Creativity – think outside the box  Appreciation  Mindful living  Giving  Ethics/honesty  Character – when no one is looking

8. Health  Sleep  8.3 hours  7 nights a week  REM sleep  Eating  5 fruits & veggies  20 minutes after eating  Weigh once a week

9. Finances  Goal setting  Nickel and dime spending  Retirement planning  Start now  Meat vs. gravy  Debt management  Family values  Inheriting spending habits

10. Prioritizing Your Life  Write your eulogy  Re-evaluate your choices  Examine other people’s priorities  Role-model your priorities  Wear them openly  Shout them from a rooftop

11. Stress Management  20 minutes every day  Fight or flight responses  Relax your body …6 -3 -6 exercise  Baths/walk  Pet/plant therapy  Laugh  Cry  Touch  Crossword puzzles  Learn a new language/musical instrument

12. Relieving Stress 1) Stay ahead of your work. 2) Do the hard tasks first. 3) Do the difficult tasks in phases. 4) Getting enough sleep is a must. 5) Have planned recreation and hobbies. 6) Admit and verbalize the causes of your own irritations. 7) Face up to the fact you really can’t do all the things you scheduled.

13. Emotional Intelligence  Self-awareness  Learned optimism  Delayed gratification  Empathy  Social skills

14. Communication  Start with “I”  3 minute rule  Family meetings  Needs vs. wants  “Men are from Venus …..”  Self-talk

15. Assertiveness  Ask for what you want  9 times!  Practice makes perfect  Passive vs. aggressive  Personal vs. business

16. Quotes  “Take your life in your own hands and what happens? A terrible thing: no one to blame.”  “Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in the world.” Erica Jong Helen Keller

17. Quotes (Cont’d.)  “Motivation is when your dreams put on work clothes.”  “One worthwhile task carried to a successful conclusion is worth half-a- hundred half-finished tasks.” Ben Franklin Malcolm S. Forbes