1. Stronger Relationships Men’s Staff Retreat

2. Welcome Welcome

3. Exercise 1: Retreat Check In ___________________________________ 1. Greatest personal accomplishment this past year? 2. One thing you’d like to learn in this session on strengthening relationships.

4. Background and Research Background and Research

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6. Your Attitude is more important than your aptitude. (“Hired and fired…”) Your Attitude is more important than your aptitude. (“Hired and fired…”)

7. at·ti·tude ˈatiˌt(y)o͞od/ noun 1. a settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior. “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only…” - James 1:22

8. pos·i·tive ˈpäzətiv/ noun 1. a good, affirmative, or constructive quality or attribute.. Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy— meditate on these things. - Philippians 4:8

9. What does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it look like? What does it sound like?

10. 1. Nonverbal Communication ___________________________________ 1. Emotional response determined nonverbally: * Albert Mehrabian Studies: Nonverbal 93% Vocal - 38% Face, Gestures, Body – 55% Verbal 7% 2. Most replication studies vary, but same results: Nonverbal 60% Verbal 40% 3. Face, voice, and body positioning most impact Face (eye contact, smile) Voice (easy pace, caring) Body (open, relaxed)

11. Exercise 2a Nonverbal Communication ___________________________________ Pair Up: A & B How would people know you were a Christian if you could not speak?

12. Exercise 2b Nonverbal Communication ___________________________________ Pair Up: A & B Talk back to back Face to face without talking Talk face to face without eye contact Talk face to face with eye contact Talk without smiling / smiling Talk standing / sitting Imitate voice of partner “B” Meta-Communicate

13. 2. Verbal Communication ___________________________________ Language of Heaven: “Adds & Multiplies” Language of Hell: “Subtracts & Divides” 1. Acknowledge others: Thank you for… I appreciate your… I admire the way you… I remember the time you… You’ve changed the way I… You’re a Godly example of…

14. Exercise 3: Appreciating Others ___________________________________ Group Circle Up Each person will receive a statement. Select one of the following for each brother as he prepares to ask: “May I receive my statement?” Thank you for… I appreciate your… I admire the way you… I remember the time you… You’ve changed the way I… You’re a Godly example of…

15. 2. Don’t say negative things about people/work Stick up for others during gossip “That doesn’t sound like the Jason I know…” “May I quote you as the source?” “Get thee behind me, Satan.” 3. Reframe negatives: Changing negative interpretations into positive interpretations: “Mark, another way of looking at this is…” 4. Asking for forgiveness: Admit, Apologize, Ask “I was wrong and I’m sorry. Would you forgive me?”

16. Exercise 4: Life Line Support ___________________________________ Pair Up: A & B Fill out life line handout. A shares, B supports / increases B shares, A supports / increases Meta-Communicate

17. Exercise 5: Forgiveness ___________________________________ Asking for Forgiveness: AAA Technique Admit (“I was wrong…”) Apologize (“I’m sorry…”) Ask (“Would you forgive me?”)

18. Exercise 6: Dream House ___________________________________ Individual Surprise

19. Catalyst for Culture

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