1. Education and Self Esteem Enhanced English for Interpreters Fujian Normal University FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

2. Summer Institute of Language and Culture 2012 Warm Up Discussion : Beijing 2008 Olympics – Opening Ceremony Yang Peiyi 杨沛宜 Lin Miaoke 林妙可 What were the general reactions from Chinese? From other cultures? What insight might this give into East and West cultural values and perspectives?

3. Sense of self, self-regard Way of Life

4. Western Spin “Child singer revealed as fake” (UK Guardian) “Few who watched the opening ceremony realized the deception” (CNN World) “The voice is Jacob's voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau.” - Genesis 27:22 (Globe and Mail) Chinese Voices “This is in the national interest. It is the image of our national music, national culture” (Chen Qi Gang) “I am honoured to have a role in the opening ceremony” – Yang Pei Yi Miaoke and Peiyi are “good friends” and that Miaoke “doesn’t care who sang the song, as long as she performed.” (Lin Miaoke’s father) FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

5. Pronunciation Practice 1. Review: She sells seashells by the seashore I saw Susie sitting in a shoeshine shop 2. WentVent WineVine GrowGrove WearyVery

6. Jazz Chant ( 爵士讴 吟 ): His English is Wonderful His English is wonderful He speaks very well His accent is perfect You can't really tell that he isn't a native of the USA There's only one problem: he has nothing to say

7. FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013 from : Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother (Amy Chua, Penguin Press, 2011)

8. “Self Esteem” I’ve noticed that Western parents are extremely anxious about their children’s self-esteem. They worry about how their children will feel if they fail at something, and they constantly try to reassure their children about how good they are notwithstanding a mediocre performance on a test or at a recital. In other words, Western parents are concerned about their children’s psyches. Chinese parents aren’t. They assume strength, not fragility and as a result they behave differently. For example, if a child comes home with an A-minus on a test, a Western parent will most likely praise the child. The Chinese mother will gasp in horror and ask what went wrong. If the child comes home with a B on a test, some Western parents will still praise the child. FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

9. Other Western parents will sit their child down and express disapproval, but they will be careful not to make their child feel inadequate or insecure, and they will not call their child “stupid,” “worthless,” or “a disgrace”. Privately, the Western parents may worry that their child does not test well or have aptitude in the subject or that there is something wrong with the curriculum and possibly the whole school. If the child’s grades do not improve, they may eventually schedule a meeting with the school principal to challenge the way the subject is being taught or to call into question, the teacher’s credentials. If a Chinese child gets a B - which would never happen - there would first be a screaming, hair-tearing explosion. The devastated Chinese mother would then get dozens, maybe hundreds of practice tests and work through them with her child for as long as it takes to get the grade up to an A. FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

10. Chinese parents demand perfect grades because they believe that their child can get them. That’s why the solution to substandard performance is always to excoriate, punish, and shame the child if their child didn’t work hard enough. The Chinese parent believes that their child will be strong enough to take the shaming and to improve from it. (And when Chinese kids do excel, there is plenty of ego-inflating parental praise lavished in the privacy of the home.)... Western parents try to respect their children’s individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions, supporting their choices, and providing positive reinforcement and a nurturing environment. By contrast, the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future, letting them see what they’re capable of, and arming them with skills, work habits, and confidence that no one can ever take away…

11. Figures of Speech and Idioms “Self Esteem”- a person’s evaluation of their own worth To have low/high self esteem, to build self esteem “Children may grow to have low self esteem if you criticize them too much” “In other words…” - clarifying a point “In other words, Western parents are concerned about their children’s psyches” “What I’m trying to say is, ” “What I mean to say is, …” “My point is that…” FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

12. Figures of Speech and Idioms “does not test well” “He worked hard and understood all of the math concepts, but his exam score doesn’t reflect his understanding. Maybe he just does not test well.” “to call into question” “His honesty was called into question when he lied about where he went last night “to take (the shaming, it)” – to tolerate, to bear “She likes to laugh at other people, but she gets angry when others laugh at her – she can’t take a joke.” FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

13. “The Virtuous Circle” What Chinese parents understand is that nothing is fun until you’re good at it. To get good at anything, you have to work, and children on their own never want to work, which is why it is crucial to override their preferences. This often requires fortitude on the part of the parents because the child will resist; things are always hardest at the beginning, which is where Western parents tend to give up. But if done properly, the Chinese strategy produces a virtuous circle. Tenacious practice, practice, practice is crucial for excellence; rote repetition is underrated in America. Once a child starts to excel at something - whether it’s math, piano, pitching, or ballet - he or she gets praise, admiration, and satisfaction. This builds confidence and makes the once not-fun activity fun. This in turn makes it easier for the parent to get the child to work even more… FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

14. The Chinese virtuous circle didn’t work with Lulu. I just couldn’t understand it. Everything seemed to be going exactly according to plan. At considerable cost - but nothing I wasn’t prepared to pay - Lulu succeeded in all the ways I’d always dreamed she would. But instead of her success producing confidence, gratitude towards parents, and the desire to work harder, the opposite happened. Lulu started rebelling; not just against practicing, but against everything I ever stood for. Around the same time, Lulu started to talk back to me and openly disobeying me in front of my parents when they visited. This might not sound like a big deal to westerners, but in our household it was like desecrating a temple. In fact, it was so out of the realm of the acceptable that no one knew what to do. My father pulled me aside and privately urged me to let Lulu give up the violin. FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

15. My mother, who was close to Lulu (they were email pen pals), told me flat out, “You have to stop being so stubborn, Amy. You’re too strict with Lulu- too extreme. You’re going to regret it.” “Why are you turning on me now?” I shot back. “This is how you raised me.” “You can’t do what Daddy and I did,” my mother replied. “Things are different now. Lulu’s not you - and she’s no Sophia. She has a different personality, and you can’t force her.” “I’m sticking to the Chinese way,” I said. “It works better. I don’t care if nobody supports me. You’ve been brainwashed by your Western friends.” My mother just shook her head. “I’m telling you, I’m worried about Lulu,” she said. “There’s something wrong in her eyes.” This hurt me more than anything. Instead of a virtuous circle, we were in a vicious spiral downward. FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

16. Figures of Speech and Idioms “get good at (it)” You get good at basketball by practicing jumping every day. “to build confidence” “Experiencing success when you are a child is critical to building self-confidence.” “prepared/willing to pay (the price)” “Long years of study and hard work were needed to become a doctor, but she was willing to pay the price.” FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

17. “talk back” (verb) versus “back talk” (noun) He talked back to his mother so she sent him away. His mother sent him to his room because of his constant back talk “not fun, fun”, “not boring, boring”, “not clean, clean” Because he was such a poor speaker, he made a subject that is not boring, boring Figures of Speech and Idioms FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

18. “virtuous circle” vs. “vicious circle” Task (2 minutes): construct either a virtuous or a vicious circle Practice playing the piano more Piano playing improves Enjoyment of piano increases

19. “to give up” vs. “to stick to it” “Don’t give up and you will succeed.” “When faced with challenges, she gave up and refused to try.” “Your suggestion sounds good, but I will stick to my way of doing things.” “Many people are hesitant to try new foods because they like to stick to what they’re familiar with.”

20. What does China think of the Tiger Mother? Script notes: 1. “You know”…- pause, speech filler 2. Being pitched- marketed 3. Kinda makes sense- understandable, comprehensible 4. Sleepovers (cultural)- young teens (typically girls) sleep at friends’ houses overnight. Often does not involve sleeping. 5. Playdates (cultural)- a date that is scheduled between parents of young children to play together FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

21. What does China think of the Tiger Mother? Script Notes Gotta get straight “A”s – all “A” grades for all school subjects All that stuff- generalization of materials, ideas the “norm”- slang for “normative” really cheesy (adj or adv)- “over the top”, trying to hard, unsubtle, inauthentic or ingenuine. Can be used to describe something of poor quality. “cheesy pick up lines”, “dance cheesy” FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013

22. Gangnam Style: “Dress Classy, Dance Cheesy” FNU Language Enhancement 2012-2013