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Marriage Today… 54% of individuals over age of 15 are married 27% have never married 18% are divorced, separated or widowed Delaying marriage until older U.S. Bureau of the Census, 2004
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The Benefits of Marriage Healthier lifestyle Longer life More satisfying sexual relationship Children do better Waite & Gallagher, 2000; Waite, 1998
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Marital Trends Marriage rate declining Increase number of people who divorce not remarrying Number of cohabitating couples rising
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Components of a Successful Marriage Independent and mature partners Love self as well as partner Enjoy alone time Establish self in career/work first Partners know themselves Assertive communication patterns Law of enlightened self interest
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Marriage Preparation Rising interest in preparing for marriage Premarital programs: ◦ Often clergy led ◦ Limited depth ◦ 1-2 sessions common ◦ Workshop, retreat, or small group common formats
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Premarital Programs Effective programs: Utilize a premarital inventory Focus on communication and problem solving skills Occur in small group format with other couples Begin 12 months prior to marriage— lasting 6-8 weeks
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The Transition to Marriage First-year problems faced by newlyweds (in order of importance) Debt brought into marriage Balancing job and marriage Frequency of sexual relations Expectation about household tasks In-laws Financial decision making Communication Schramm et al., 2005
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Five Types of Marriage Vitalized Harmonious Traditional Conflicted Devitalized Olson & Olson, 2000; Allen & Olson, 2001
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“Marriage Work” Marriages require work Couple time can get lost in midst of family time: ◦ Limit family outside activities ◦ Schedule couple time and activities View marriage as an investment for self and family
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Two Important Roles Sacrifice ◦ One puts partner’s needs first ◦ Partner puts relationship above selfish interests Forgiveness ◦ Needs to be part of conflict resolution ◦ Decreases negativity and increases positive feelings and goodwill
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Love Life for Every Married Couple Dr. Ed Wheat, The Five ways of love Epithumia: strong desire of any kind Eros: Yearning and desire. Romantic, passionate and sentimental. Storge: Comfortable old-shoe relationship. Natural affection and sense of belonging Phileo: Cherishes and tender affection for the beloved but expecting a response Agape: A love of action, not emotion. Focuses on what you do and say, rather than how you feel
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