10. 1. Nest

12. 2. Training

13. 3. Happy Flying

24. BiologyBiology

36. Attachment Theory John Bowlby

37. Cindy Hazan and Phillip Shaver Attachment Theory

38. 1. Scanning

39. 2. Exchange of Love Map

40. Love Map 1.Some one similar to primary care givers 2.Some one who has same wound but different defence 3.Attracted to partners who exhibit aspects of our lost selves

41. 3. Attraction

42. Attraction when continued will lead you to Infatuation. Attraction when continued will lead you to Infatuation.

45. Stage of Romance

53. Stage of Reality

57. According to John M. Gottman’s the success or failure of a marriage does not depend on whether there is conflict in a relationship, but on how the conflict is handled.

61. Criticism: more damaging than complaints. Includes character attacks, i.e., “you never pick up after yourself,” “You are really boring.” Also includes global complaints, i.e., “You never…..” or You always……”

62. Contempt: is most corrosive and more destructive than criticism. It conveys disgust and disrespect. It can include sarcasm, mockery, insults, eye rolls, scowls, and hostile humor to belittle the intended partner. Hinders any attempts at reconciliation, and usually includes an attitude of superiority.

63. Defensiveness: Attempts to blame the partner for the aggressor's behaviour. It usually becomes a counterattack. That escalates negativity.

64. Stonewalling: an overwhelmed partner uses this to convey that (he) does not want to continue the interaction. It is usually a man, and the pattern is his withdrawal in the face of active pursuit and demands. Although the stonewaller appears hostile, his actual feelings are “when is she going to stop.” Physical sense of emotional flooding, and the person is so overwhelmed that they cannot even listen. This, of course, only serves to infuriate the partner more, and provoke their mate to “engage, discuss, and be accountable.

84. The 5 Love Languages What Is Your Love Language?

96. Structure of Couple Dialogue MIRRORING I heard you saying that.. Did I get you? Is there more? Summary Is this the essence? VALIDATION I understand you… and it is important … It makes sense because… EMAPTHY And I imagine that you might feel… Getting INFORMATION about the other UNDERSTANDING the others logic without agreeing – stepping OUT OF SYBMIOSIS into DIFFERENTIATION Emotions that provide the energy for BEHAVIOUR CHANGE

97. 97 The result of the conscious marriage Safe connection Understanding Compassion Recognition of the differences Knowing thyself Healing of the childhood wounds Personal growth Growth of the relationship Becoming joyful adult