1. PEACE KEEPING STARTS WITH OURSELVES By Poran Poregbal www.middlepeace.com © copyright 2007 www.middlepeace.com Peace is about to keep harmony, inside and outside, to live a healthy life inside and outside

2. Thriving Peace within ourselves and in our communities starts with how much we thrive: Self-understanding Self-understanding Self-actualization Self-actualization Health; physical and psychological Health; physical and psychological Social interest (Adler) Social interest (Adler) Community feeling Community feeling

3. Our Basic Needs Hierarchy of needs according to Maslow: Physiological Physiological Safety and security Safety and security Love and sense of belonging Love and sense of belonging Self-esteem Self-esteem Self-actualization Self-actualization

4. Peace starts with ourselves Love yourself and your people Love yourself and your people Keep boundaries Keep boundaries Respect yourself Respect yourself Respect children Respect children Know your limitations Know your limitations Take time for yourself Take time for yourself

5. Learning Use every opportunity to learn Use every opportunity to learn Know that you do not know Know that you do not know Be humble Be humble We are all equal people We are all equal people Teach your son to cook and your daughter to repair cars Teach your son to cook and your daughter to repair cars Listen to the inner voice and to others Listen to the inner voice and to others

6. kindness kindness is an act not word kindness is an act not word Kind in language and actions Kind in language and actions Kind in judgment Kind in judgment Love for self and others Love for self and others Love for respect Love for respect Love for safety Love for safety Love for good behavior Love for good behavior

7. At home Give yourself and your partner time Give yourself and your partner time Do not blame, resolve conflict in peace Do not blame, resolve conflict in peace Encourage Encourage Listen Listen Know your biases and own them Know your biases and own them Know your own culture Know your own culture Anger is about fear, what are you afraid of? Anger is about fear, what are you afraid of?

8. Children Parent your child, do not be a friend Parent your child, do not be a friend Teach, discipline, and coach your child Teach, discipline, and coach your child Give your child responsibility Give your child responsibility Ask your child for opinion Ask your child for opinion Do not buy love Do not buy love Show love Show love Children are small people, help them grow Children are small people, help them grow

9. marriage Marriage is not about making two lives one Marriage is not about making two lives one Individuality in marriage keeps love alive Individuality in marriage keeps love alive Own space and time important Own space and time important Respect for each other a MUST Respect for each other a MUST Give and receive Give and receive Say what you want Say what you want Say how you feel Say how you feel

10. Extended family Grandparents are important Grandparents are important Respect their age Respect their age Ask them to respect younger generation Ask them to respect younger generation Do not enmesh Do not enmesh Every family member is equally important Every family member is equally important If problem with one person, resolve conflict with one person, do not let others to give opinion, the more people involved the worse….no triangle! If problem with one person, resolve conflict with one person, do not let others to give opinion, the more people involved the worse….no triangle!

11. Migration, home Find peace with the past Find peace with the past Accept inferiorities Accept inferiorities Accept migration as a part of our new life Accept migration as a part of our new life Do not live in the past Do not live in the past Live in NOW Live in NOW Future has not come yet Future has not come yet Feel home where you are happy Feel home where you are happy

12. Teenagers Developmental stages and migration Developmental stages and migration Self and others Self and others Loyalty to family and friends Loyalty to family and friends Need for responsibility and accountability Need for responsibility and accountability Sense of belonging important Sense of belonging important Respect teenagers Respect teenagers Get them involved with love Get them involved with love

13. On the road Driving with peace Driving with peace We have time We have time Treating other cars with respect Treating other cars with respect Road rage is hurtful Road rage is hurtful Do not speed Do not speed There are less competent drivers, they do not mean it, be patient with them There are less competent drivers, they do not mean it, be patient with them

14. At work You are who you are and others are who they are You are who you are and others are who they are Stress is positive at times Stress is positive at times Respecting other people and their opinions Respecting other people and their opinions We own our opinion, own your bias We own our opinion, own your bias Be on time, people take you more seriously Be on time, people take you more seriously Talking less, listening more, learning more Talking less, listening more, learning more

15. Mental Health Cognition, behavior, emotions Cognition, behavior, emotions Knowing our own abilities compare to what is real Knowing our own abilities compare to what is real We may or may not find the best job We may or may not find the best job Our physical pain and emotional pain both are important and need treatment Our physical pain and emotional pain both are important and need treatment

16. Our world Respect for mother earth Respect for mother earth God and prayers God and prayers Nature and sunshine Nature and sunshine Walks and hikes Walks and hikes Love for the world Love for the world Respect for our environment Respect for our environment Breathing and cleaner air Breathing and cleaner air

17. Others Volunteering helps Volunteering helps Proper communication with others Proper communication with others Healthy food and cooking classes Healthy food and cooking classes Visiting those in need Visiting those in need Act of kindness Act of kindness charity charity