1. “Some” American Values FamilyFriendshipsMedia THE WORLD AROUND US FAMILY VALUES Scott Finch Summer Camp 2013 University of Science and Technology, Beijing

2. WHAT IS A VALUE? You have been given ¥6000 RMB to do whatever you like with it. What would you do with it? You have been given ¥6000 RMB to do whatever you like with it. What would you do with it? Share with someone around you what you would do with it. Share with someone around you what you would do with it.Conclusion: What you spend the money on represents some of the things you value. What you spend the money on represents some of the things you value.

3. WHAT IS A VALUE? What things did you do during the past week? How did you spend your time? With whom did you spend your time? Conclusion: What you choose to do with your time also demonstrates or shows your values.

4. DEFINING VALUES Qualities, characteristics, or ideas about which we feel strongly. A belief or feeling that someone or something is worthwhile. Values are standards to guide your action, judgments, and attitudes.

5. VALUE AND LIFE Our values affect how we interact with The World Around Us.

6. AMERICAN VALUES Belonging Flexibility Respect Honesty Forgiveness Generosity Curiosity Communication Responsibility/ Independence Traditions

7. TYPES OF VALUES: Moral Material Aesthetic Intrinsic Extrinsic American / Universal Group specific values

8. WHAT IS BEAUTY?

9. WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES? 1.? 2.? 3.? 4.? 5.?

10. FAMILY

11. VALUES: GROWING UP As a child growing up: traditions, generosity Holidays: family gets together to celebrate special days, usually centered around a meal. Thanksgiving Christmas ChristmasEaster

12. As a Parent: Responsibility Responsibility Communication Communication Belonging Belonging Forgiveness Forgiveness Respect Respect MY FAMILY’S VALUES

13. American Family Traditions: Holidays Christmas (Christian holiday, but also celebrated by non-Christians) Biggest holiday for many Americans Different traditions for different families. Thanksgiving: family get together for a special dinner Easter: Christian families celebrate OUR TRADITIONS

14. HOLIDAYS ON CAMPUS Campuses Empty: Most Students Go Home for Holidays Mostly graduate students remain as they are working on research projects. Some professors have traditionally invited international students to their home for dinner.

15. FAMILY EXPECTATIONS Expectations: Family values determine expectations in many areas of your life. Think of these areas and what does your family expect you to do?

16. FAMILY EXPECTATIONS Dating: At what age? With what type of person? Education & Career: Personal interest or what parents say to do? Parents: At what age do you move out? Who will care for them when they are elderly? Friends: Are they welcome to visit the family? Religion: Expected to have same as parents?

17. FAMILY EXPECTATIONS Parenting Differences: Family values may determine expectations placed on students. Tiger Mom

18. FAMILY EXPECTATIONS “Wolf Dad”

19. FRIENDSHIPS AND RELATIONSHIPS

20. VALUES: INFLUENCES AT DIFFERENT AGES Ages 1-7 --- parents Ages 8-13 --- parents, teachers, heroes(sports, music, TV) Ages 14-20 --- peers – “FRIENDS” (values because of peers or peers because of values?) Ages 21+ your values are established, but you may test your values from time to time.

21. FRIENDSHIPS As an international student make friends with local people. Look for opportunities People in the same subject/major In classes outside of your majors Others activities outside of class add opportunities. Intramural sports, Interest clubs, and Social mixers.

22. AMERICAN AND CHINA ONLINE Social Networking How do you feel about online dating?

23. AMERICAN AND CHINA ONLINE

24. MEDIA VALUES

25. View of Dating

26. MEDIA VALUES View of Marriage

27. What are your questions? Family Values Traditions College Experience THE WORLD AROUND US FAMILY VALUES

28. KNOW YOUR VALUES Identify your values 1.Brainstorm a list of the activities that you value Examples spending time with children, work, exercise, spirituality/religion, quiet time for yourself, education, time with spouse, computer games, being with friends, etc. 2.Arrange the list in order of priority 3.Arrange the activities in order of how you actually spend your time each week and list the approximate hours you spend doing this activity.

29. KNOW YOUR VALUES All activities I value Prioritized List of Valued ActivitiesActual Time Spent Family time 1. Time with familyEducation: 45 hours Education 2. Education Exercise/Health 3. Etc.

30. “Some” American Values FamilyFriendshipsMedia THE WORLD AROUND US FAMILY VALUES