1. SEX – CONSEQUENCES, BOUNDARIES, GOALS

2. The Issue…  When teens start dating the questions come up:  When will I have sex?  How far is too far?  Where do I draw the line?  What if I’m in a relationship?  What if we’re in love?

3. Sexual Values and Behavior  What sexual behaviors do you think are permissible?  Kissing  Cuddling (teddy bear vs. couch)  “Making out”/”Feeling Up”/”Hooking Up”  Oral Sex  Intercourse  Outside a relationship?  With a boyfriend/girlfriend

4. Pros and Cons  There are consequences to engaging in any sexual activity  Physical & Emotional consequences  These can be good or bad

5. Pros and Cons - What could be some pros and cons of becoming sexually active as a teen/before marriage?  Physical  Experience  Fun  Emotional  Grow closer  Should mature  Fun  “Show love”  Physical  Risk of unwanted pregnancy  STDs  Must plan, use, pay for contraception  Emotional  Stress  What if the relationship ends?  Keep up other relationships  Faith and family  Effects on this and future relationship ProsCons

6. Pros and Cons - What could be some pros and cons of waiting until marriage to become sexually active  Emotional  Learn discipline & sacrifice  Other ways to communicate/express feelings  Less stress  Maturity  Prepare for successful marriage  Physical  No risk of STDs  No need for contraceptives  No worry for unplanned pregnancy  Emotional  Difficult/frustrating  Lack of “experience”  May feel left out  Physical  Difficult to abstain at times ProsCons

7. What are your main concerns?  When it comes to being in an exclusive relationship, what are your main concerns?  When it comes to sexual activity, what are your main concerns?  What should teens take into account when choosing to become sexually active?

8. What are your goals?  When it comes to dating, what are your goals?  How can your sexuality and the presence or lack of a sexual relationship help or hinder your goals?  It is important to address these question before or at the beginning of a dating relationship.