1. Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk and DISCIPLINE BME and DISCIPLINE

2. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Objectives To understand how and why some BME parents discipline their children. What professionals can do to help safeguard these children

3. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk WHY THE NEED FOR THIS WORKSHOP? Issues arising from few BME parents disciplining their children on the basis of their cultural value which is tantamount to abuse Two of the key safeguarding principles: –Race, language, culture and religious issues need to be taken into account but are not an excuse for abuse –To work with the child, parents and others in partnership

4. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk CAUTION!!! It is important to note that the fact that BME parents discipline their children differently does not mean that its a safeguarding issue. Some aspects are positive while some are negative.

5. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk TYPES OF DISCIPLINE

6. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk WHY DO PARENTS DO THAT? Some BME parents discipline their children like that because they are unaware that it is abuse were raised like that dont want to lose control are passionate about their childrens success especially their education

7. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk WHY DO PARENTS DO THAT? (Continued) Some BME parents discipline their children like that because they dont want their children to drag the family name in the mud dont know any other way and are at a loss of what to do. dont believe in respecting children see the child as their own child

8. www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk Listening to you, working for you www.bexley.gov.uk WHAT CAN WE DO? Make parents aware of the law Educate parents on other ways of disciplining their children Emphasize the good point of the child when talking to them about their child Let them know that we are there to support them and not just waiting for them to make a mistake.