1. Adam and Debbie Race

2.  I have got three brothers  They are all older than me  I went to the same schools as my brothers  We all played a lot of sport  My favourites were football, cricket, pool and swimming

3.  I got good at sport especially football and pool  I joined the football team in Stoke-on–Trent  Then I was picked to play for the West Midlands team at the Special Olympics  I went to Glasgow with the team and we won gold medals  Everyone was very proud of us

4.  I was asked to join the pub pool team with my brothers  The first time I beat someone from another pub everyone was very pleased.  I have won lots of singles and doubles matches  I am sad that the pub does not have a pool team any more

5.  My brothers worked hard to pass their exams  I did the same and got 6 GCSE’s  My brothers went to University and I wanted to do the same  I went to High Peak College in Buxton when I left school. It is part of the University of Derby

6.  Now I live with my brother Jon and his dog Buster  We share the jobs out at home  He sorts the bills out and I do the cleaning  We both walk the dog  He showed me how to use the cooker and the washing machine  Sometimes he gets cross with me

7.  It’s cool having brothers  I can visit Philip in London and Simon in Scotland  Sometimes we go to the pub together but mainly I go when I want to  It was really good being an usher at Philip and Simon’s weddings  My brothers tease me and I tease them

8.  I had a sister called Jenny who was 13 months older than me  She had Down’s Syndrome like Adam  We did masses of things together ◦ Played and laughed and fell out ◦ Started at the same school on the same day ◦ Went to Brownies and Girl Guides  She learnt first aid at guides and helped our grandmother when she had a nasty accident and cut her leg

9.  We both had another sister who was five years older than us.  She and I worked in different countries  Jenny was able to visit us in ◦ Zambia ◦ Hong Kong ◦ Bermuda ◦ Canada  Jenny became a godmother to her oldest nephew

10.  Jenny got a job when she left school  She worked there for 27 years before she developed early onset Alzheimer's Disease  She used her retirement lump sum to take herself and her nephews to Disneyworld in Florida – This was a dream she had had for a long time

11.  Adam remembers that Jenny liked to watch Dad’s Army, do jigsaws and play Yahtzee  She also liked watching cricket when her brother-in-law or nephews were playing

12.  Mutuality of love and benefit  Life long and changing  Expanding developmental opportunities from shared experiences  High expectations and powerful advocacy  Imitation and interpersonal identification  Valued social participation

13.  Start several – you do not know which ones will really work  Look for mutuality and sharing but not exclusivity  Expect and encourage difficulties and change  Find ways to support the relationship especially at times of physical distance  Educate the non disabled person in SRV (whether formally or informally) and empower them to advocate