1. DRAFT ONLY Chastity The Foundational Virtue for Marriage And for Society Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D. The Diocese of Arlington Catholic Charities Mental Health Seminar Nov. 13, 2013

2. DRAFT ONLY Chastity: The Foundation of Marriage And The Family

3. DRAFT ONLY CONTENTS  problems  solution  strategy  need to succeed

4. DRAFT ONLY the big problem

5. DRAFT ONLY PROBLEM statistic 55% of American 17 year olds have grown up without mother and father divorce has reduced the growth of us economy by 1/6 th every year for 20 years when you factor in the marriage of parents there is little to no difference between incarceration rates of black and white youth most children in poverty now live in situations of cohabitation rather than in single parent family Because of abortion we loose $100B in income and $10B in taxes every year

6. DRAFT ONLY FUNDAMENTAL INSTITUTIONS government marketplace school church family m a c r o – l e v e l m i c r o – l e v e l

7. DRAFT ONLY STUDIES SHOW productivity inco me crime life expectancy wealth life expectancy 27% 39%

8. DRAFT ONLY 2.9 2.6 2.5 2.6 2.5 2.30 2.40 2.50 2.60 2.70 2.80 2.90 Average GPA Enligsh/Math Combined INTACTSTEPCOHABIT (BOTH NATURAL) COHABIT (ONE NATURAL) DIVORCEDNEVER MARRIED GPA English/Math by Family Structure Source: Adolescent Health Survey, Wave I. Adolescents grade 7-12.

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11. $100 $27 $127 0 20 40 60 80 100 120 140 Comparative Income % Average Unmarried MalePremiumAverage Married Male Marriage Premium in Male Income Source Antovics, K. & Town, R. Am Econ Review V 94, (2004) pp 317-321 +=

12. DRAFT ONLY 3.93 Million Children 3.17 Million Children 0.75 Million Children Unmarried Parents Same Parents If Married Source R Rector (Heritage Fdn) : Analysis of CPS 2001 Children in Poverty In Poverty Out of Poverty

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14. US Total (Males) 1982-2010 % “Unskilled” Not Working: single Cohab Married

15. DRAFT ONLY US Total (Males) “Not Working” Professional Class single Cohab Married Unemployed Fraction of Occupation Class single Cohab Married

16. DRAFT ONLY Retreat from Marriage: Black Men (25-54) Unemployment Differentials Marriage (pink) and non-Marriage (blue)

17. DRAFT ONLY Proportion of Married Heads of Households 1960-1990

18. DRAFT ONLY Growth in Productivity: Down MARRIED DIVORCED SINGLE

19. DRAFT ONLY Male Employment 1962-2010 Males aged 25-54; Bureau of Labor Statistics (CPS)

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21. Source: C. Harper and S. McLanahan, “Father Absence and Youth Incarceration,” ASA Annual Meeting, San Francisco, August 1998. Data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth. Family Structure: Comparative Rates Of Youth Incarceration 1 2.07 2.71 3.7 0 0.5 1 1.5 2 2.5 3 3.5 4 Raised in Intact Married Parent Family Raised in Mother-Only FamilyRaised in a Mother and Stepfather Family Raised in a Stepmother Family Comparative Rates of Incarceration

22. DRAFT ONLY Relative Rates of Physical Abuse by Family Structure Source NIS-4, 2010 1.0 5.2 4.3 10.3 3.1 3.6 0 2 4 6 8 10 12 Always Intact Married Family Step Married Family Intact Cohabiting Family Step Cohabiting Family Single Parent Family Not living with either parent

23. DRAFT ONLY Relative Rates of Sexual Abuse by Family Structure Source NIS-4, 2010 1 5 19.8 4.8 10.6 8.6 0 5 10 15 20 25 Always Intact Married Family Step Married Family Intact Cohabiting Family Step Cohabiting Family Single Parent Family Not living with either parent

24. DRAFT ONLY U.S: Partner / Spouse Violence Against Mothers Over 20 With Children under 12 Source DOJ Nat Crime Victimization Survey 1999 4 6 15 33 0 5 10 15 20 25 30 35 MarriedWidowedMarried+Div+Sep Combined Never Married Rate Per 1,000

25. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source: NSFG 1995

26. DRAFT ONLY the solution

27. DRAFT ONLY PASSING THE BATON

28. DRAFT ONLY DROPPING THE BATON

29. DRAFT ONLY SOLUTION Grow the young intact married family that worships God weekly

30. DRAFT ONLY STRATEGY TO SOLUTION be a part of the conversation shape the conversation govern- ment market- place school church family m a c r o – l e v e l m i c r o – l e v e l

31. DRAFT ONLY PROBLEM

32. DRAFT ONLY STUDIES SHOW certain family behaviors cause positive national and personal consequences  family dinner  friendship  social fun (rather than digital)  teen chastity  pre-marriage preparation  pre-courtship preparation  mentoring newly married  Adoption  weekly worship  prayer  increased revenue from taxes  increased productivity  enhanced human capital  higher income and savings  higher education attainment  small business growth  better health

33. DRAFT ONLY Need for success  The Children --- The Next Generation  The Economy  The Constitution  The Solution Natural Law

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35. Annual Rejection Ratio: For Every 100 Children Born Sources: CDC/ NCHS report series 0.0 10.0 20.0 30.0 40.0 50.0 60.0 70.0 80.0 90.0 100.0 195019551960196519701975198019851990199519982000 Divorce OWB

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37. Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

38. DRAFT ONLY For many: Marriage is not in their future Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

39. DRAFT ONLY 2.9 2.8 2.7 2.6 2.45 2.5 2.55 2.6 2.65 2.7 2.75 2.8 2.85 2.9 Combined English-Math Score WeeklyWeekly<MonthlyMonthly<YearlyNever Frequency of Religious Attendance GPA Score Combined English/ Math Source Ad Health Survey Waves 1+2 1995

40. DRAFT ONLY WORSHIP: NEGATIVE

41. DRAFT ONLY GPA

42. DRAFT ONLY HIGH SCHOLL EDUCATION

43. DRAFT ONLY CRIME: ASSAULT

44. DRAFT ONLY HEAVY DRINKING

45. DRAFT ONLY BACHELOR DEGREE

46. DRAFT ONLY INTERCOURSE

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52. IMPORTANCE OF BEING MARRIED

53. DRAFT ONLY Number of Non-Marital Sexual Partners Versus Percent in a Stable Marriage Source NSFG 1995

54. DRAFT ONLY The More Sexual Partners the More Likely to Abort Source NSFG 1995 8 12 18 19 25 31 34 39 43 52 0 10 20 30 40 50 60 0123456-1011-1516-2021+ NUMBER OF NON MARITAL SEXUAL PARTNERS IN LIFETIME Percent who have abortions later

55. Age of First Intercourse Versus Number of Sexual Partners Source: NSFG 1995

56. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners and Out-of-Wedlock Births Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 1.71% 16.29% 32.89% 40.02% 44.02% 42.66% 49.45% 49.99% 47.55% 55.21% 49.89% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% Virgin at Time of First Marriage Had Pre- Marital Sex with First Husband 123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Voluntary Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active Women Aged 15-44 with Children

57. DRAFT ONLY Non-Marital Sexual Partners And Single Motherhood Source: CDC, National Center for Health Statistics, National Survey of Family Growth, 1995 7.09% 30.21% 36.48% 38.81% 44.16% 53.07% 48.13% 47.03% 50.30% 56.98% 0% 10% 20% 30% 40% 50% 60% 0123456-10.11-15.16-2021+ Number of Lifetime Non-Marital Sexual Partners Percent of Sexually Active women Aged 15-44 with Children

59. DRAFT ONLY THE INDIVIDUAL AND PORNOGRAPHY Pornography is addictive, and neuroscientists are beginning to map the biological substrate of this addiction. Desensitized to their type of pornography Higher tolerance for abnormal sexuality, including rape, sexual aggression, and sexual promiscuity. Produces stronger notions of women as commodities or as "sex objects." Greater sexual permissiveness, out-of-wedlock births and STDs. Child-sex offenders are more likely to view pornography regularly or to be involved in its distribution.

60. DRAFT ONLY Porn-culture epidemic THE FAMILY AND PORNOGRAPHY Married men feel less satisfied and less emotionally attached to their wives. Wives notice and are deeply upset by the difference. Pornography use is a pathway to infidelity and divorce. Among couples affected by one spouse's addiction, two-thirds experience a loss of interest in sexual intercourse. Both spouses perceive pornography viewing as tantamount to infidelity. Pornography viewing leads to a loss of interest in good family relations.

61. DRAFT ONLY For 16-23 year olds: What to do in matters sexual »Friendship »Chastity »Good times

62. DRAFT ONLY How NOW affects marriage down the road Sexuality (deeply us) Freud, JPII Dissipation of energy / resources Friendship capacity To give Research on giving “Who Really Cares” Arthur Brooks Unhappy ? Find someone in real need

63. DRAFT ONLY Charts from “Knot Now”, by Hymowitz, Carroll, Wilcox and Kaye, 2013

64. DRAFT ONLY Other Religious and non Religious Groups: Natural Law, Transcendentals, Religion.

65. DRAFT ONLY The Five Basic Institutions Five Basic Tasks Church Family School Government Market InstrumentalRelational

66. DRAFT ONLY Belonging: Male + Female Family Child / Adult FatherMother Society At Large

67. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

68. DRAFT ONLY The Non-Thriving Marriage / Child Relationship

69. DRAFT ONLY Society’s Foundational Relationship

70. DRAFT ONLY Free To Choose Not Free to Choose The Consequences

71. DRAFT ONLY Unleash creativity: getting through to other teens

72. DRAFT ONLY MARRI’S VISION of itself 0I00III0I0II000I0I00I data synthesize distribute through marripedia governmentmarketplace m a c r o – l e v e l hp model schoolchurchfamily m i c r o – l e v e l distribute through mainstream grassroots & social market to MARRIexternal Original & model papers

73. DRAFT ONLY Model build out ORIGINAL RESEARCH productivity education income health crime taxes savings and wealth addictions MARRIAGE DIVORCE SINGLE COHABITATION WORSHIP WEEKLY > MONTHLY <MONTHLY NEVER Annual Index

74. DRAFT ONLY we are free to choose, but we are not free to choose the consequences

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