1. Love
Chapter 5

2. Love Styles Ludus Pragma Eros
Views love as a game, refuses to become dependent, and does not encourage another’s intimacy.
Pragma
The love of the pragmatic, who is logical and rational.
Eros
A love style of passion and romance.

3. Love Styles Mania Storge Agape
The person with mania love style feels intense emotion and sexual passion but is out of control.
Storge
A calm, soothing, nonsexual love devoid of intense passion.
Agape
A love style that is selfless and giving.

4. Romantic vs. Realistic Love
Romantic Love:
Characterized by such beliefs as love at first sight, there is only one true love, and love conquers all.
Symptoms of romantic love include drastic mood swings, palpitations of the heart, and intrusive thoughts about the partner.
Realistic Love:
Also known as conjugal love.
Conjugal (married) love is less emotional, passionate, and exciting than romantic love and is characterized by companionship, calmness, comfort, and security.

5. Social Control of Love Arranged Marriages Race Same sex attraction
How do parents and peers influence mate selection?

6. Is a little bit of jealousy in a relationship a good thing?
Why do people feel jealous?
Are women or men more jealous? Do they experience jealousy differently?

7. Jealousy Definition Types of Jealousy Reactive
An emotional response to a perceived or real threat to an important or valued relationship
Reactive
Anxious
Possessive

8. What are Good and Bad Consequences of Jealousy
Desirable consequences
Undesirable consequences
Make individual miserable
Cause a negative evaluation in the relationship experience
Attacks can cause partner to end relationship
Lead to stalking or violence.
Signify that partner is cared for
Learn that development of other romantic and sexual relationships is unacceptable
Assess partners commitment

9. Cultural Aspects of Mate Selection
Fewer than 5% of persons marry someone outside their race.
Independent of sexual orientation, two forms of cultural pressure operative in mate selection are:
Endogamy - Expectation to marry within one’s social group.
Exogamy - Expectation to marry outside one’s own family group.

10. Sociological Factors Operative in Mate Selection
The homogamy theory of mate selection states that we tend to be attracted to and become involved with those who are similar to us in age, race, religion, and social class.
The more couples have in common, the higher the reported relationship satisfaction and the more durable the relationship.

11. Psychological Factors Operative in Mate Selection
Complementary-Needs Theory
Exchange Theory
Parental Characteristics

12. The Marriage Market
People enter the marriage market and bargain for the best “buy” they can get.
The resources individuals take with them to this “market” are their personal and social characteristics.
Relationships form and continue based upon rewards and costs they provide to each partner.
Which theory is this based off of?

13. Filter Theory
According to filter theory, we sift eligible people according to specific criteria and thus narrow the pool of potential partners to a small number of candidates.

14. The principle of least interest- The partner that is least interested in relationship has more power, more control
Less dependence, less interest in maintaining relationship=more control
Conversely, the dependent partner is more easily manipulated and controlled