1. From Frustration to VICTORY! Blooming RELATIONSHIPS: Forgive & Forget?

2. Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Introduction Why is it so hard to move forward after someone has hurt me, even after I have forgiven them?

3. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Introduction Why is it so hard to trust someone again? Is it wrong for me not to trust someone who has hurt me? Why is it so hard to trust someone again? Is it wrong for me not to trust someone who has hurt me?

4. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Choosing to Forgive Ephesians 4:32 (p. 1159) Forgive just as in Christ God forgave you Ephesians 4:32 (p. 1159) Forgive just as in Christ God forgave you

5. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way A Choice A Release A Substitution A Choice A Release A Substitution

6. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way God Holy Just Sinful Human Just Punishment

7. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way God Holy Just Sinful Human Just Punishment Romans 5:8 A Choice A Release

8. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way God Holy Just Sinful Human Romans 5:8 A Substitution

9. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way God Holy Just SinfulHuman Remove Sin Remove Sin 1 Peter 2:24 Sin Shame Pain When I Believe… Just Punishment A Substitution

10. Forgiving Christ’s Way God Mercy Grace Human Sin Shame Pain Forgiveness…Forgiveness…

11. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way A Choice: To forgive or not forgive

12. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way A Choice: A Release: A Choice: A Release: Release my right to see the offender punished

13. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way A Choice: A Release: A Substitution: A Choice: A Release: A Substitution: Be willing to bear the emotional damage/pain caused by the person’s offense.

14. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way Me “Just Punishment” Offender

15. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way Just Punishment Ephesian s 4:32 A Choice A Release Me Offender Sinful Human

16. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way Mercy & Grace Offender Release Right to Punish Release Right to Punish Forgiveness…Forgiveness… PainShamePainShame

17. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Forgiving Christ’s Way PainShamePainShame Praying through Forgiveness…

18. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS But Remembering Still Hurts What do I do with the pain & distrust?

19. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS But Remembering Still Hurts Remember what Christ has done for you and the riches of His grace toward you. Pray through the issue/offense suffered Be willing to feel the pain Remember what Christ has done for you and the riches of His grace toward you. Pray through the issue/offense suffered Be willing to feel the pain

20. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS But Remembering Still Hurts Be willing to bear the pain, releasing the offender As the pain intensifies, seek God’s healing Be willing to bear the pain, releasing the offender As the pain intensifies, seek God’s healing

21. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS But Remembering Still Hurts Wait on the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart Record healing of H.S.: the verses, word pictures, songs which the Lord gives you Repeat for 30 days Wait on the Holy Spirit to minister to your heart Record healing of H.S.: the verses, word pictures, songs which the Lord gives you Repeat for 30 days

22. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS But Remembering Still Hurts Trusting Again? Walking in love AND wisdom – Romans 12:17-21 – Matthew 10:16 Trusting Again? Walking in love AND wisdom – Romans 12:17-21 – Matthew 10:16

23. Forgive & Forget? Blooming RELATIONSHIPS Conclusion Choosing Jesus: – For Salvation – For Forgiveness – For Healing Choosing Jesus: – For Salvation – For Forgiveness – For Healing