1. Mr. Salter Morality

2.  God created man and woman with natural, complementary sexual differences. ◦ Sexuality is a psychological, spiritual, and physical reality, it is not just about “body parts”  The two Creation stories contain these truths: 1.Marriage is a blessing from God 2.Man and women together image God’ likeness 3.Man and woman are created to form a social unit (marriage) 4.Man & woman are united in marriage, in biblical language, it will form “one flesh” and has a procreative end, “be fruitful and multiply”  The ‘dark side’ of sexuality is that it can be used selfishly, and can exploit those who are vulnerable

3.  Two primary goods of marriage: unity and procreation Unity ◦ Joining together as one and creating a family ◦ The unique gift of “union” can be received in its proper sense only as a result of it first being given to the other in marriage ◦ The first sex act causes an extremely powerful emotional attachment (an “adhesive property) Procreation ◦ All sexual unions are meant to remain open to new life ◦ Contraception – against conception – has the goal of preventing the creation of human life  So marriage is meant to be a lifelong, permanent commitment until death claims one or the other.

4.  Contraception causes love to be no longer authentic (as sexual love was created to be) ◦ Not accepting procreation as part of a “marital act”, diminishes the total self-giving of the relationship  Contraception has led to considerable moral chaos by contributing to promiscuity, unwed pregnancy, abortion, single parenthood, and divorce  Contraception as birth control, limiting procreation ◦ The Birth control pill works to prevent pregnancy through the manipulation of hormone levels to “trick” a woman’s body that it is pregnant; the ovaries do not develop and release eggs ◦ It separates the sexual act from procreation  Methods: condoms, birth control pill, tubal ligation, and vasectomy  Abortifacients ◦ Allow fertilization (a life to begin at conception), but prevent implantation; thus killing the new life  Examples - IUD and the morning-after pills

5. Natural Family Planning (NFP)  The Catholic Church endorses a responsible family planning method – NFP ◦ This method monitors a woman’s natural awareness of her menstrual cycles of fertility and infertility  The couple monitors subtle temperature changes and other body changes to know when ovulation takes place  Divorce rate among NFP practitioners is 2% ◦ Pregnancy  A woman is normally fertile for about four days per month  Ovum (egg) life after ovulation is estimated to be a maximum of 24 hours  Sperm life in a favorable vaginal environment is up to 4 days

6. Two Properties of Marriage: Exclusivity and Indissolubility ◦ Since the marriage act is procreative, Catholic morality teaches that the only permissible use of genital sex should take place within marriage  Exclusivity  Since marriage involves a total self-giving from each spouse, it follows that this gift cannot be shared with a third party, in which case it would be incomplete.  Polygamy (multiple partners within a marriage) violates the nature of matrimony  Indissolubility ◦ Marriage obviously demands stability, too create healthy family life  Natural morality and Christian revelation strongly state that this stability is to be permanent; t o give oneself totally to a spouse, that totality is not complete if it is not lifelong.

7.  Divorce ◦ Jesus speaks of the indissolubility of marriage  He said: “…the two will become one flesh, so they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (cf. Mk 10:2-9).  For this reason, Jesus and the Church do not recognize divorce for those who are sacramentally married (since it is impossible to break the sacramental union of a man and woman)  In itself, divorce may not be sinful.  Annulments ◦ The Church does permit annulments  The recognition that no true marriage existed from the beginning due to certain obstacles or impediments present at the time of the marriage making it null and void; e.g. a lack of full, free, and voluntary consent, an existing prior marriage, or a being married before a judge

8.  Moral Behavior ◦ Chastity is responsible use of our sexual powers  Single, married, a priest or religious, all have the responsibility to live chastely according to our particular state in life  By living a chaste life, w holesome men balance appreciating a woman’s “full beauty” (physical, emotional &spiritual), as opposed to seeing her only as an object to be used selfishly  However, merely abstaining from sexual activity does not mean that a person is living a chaste life  Jesus also teaches “[E]very one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”  Practicing chastity requires self-mastery (patience and grace)

9.  Violations of Chastity condemned in the Old Testament: ◦ Adultery - having sexual relations with a married person not your spouse ◦ Fornication - pre-marital sex ◦ Prostitution is prohibited because it uses a person for sexual pleasure. ◦ Incest - sexual activity among relatives ◦ Homosexual sexual activity is condemned because it is contrary to the nature of man and contrary to the sex act itself.

10.  Pornography violates chastity by perverting the gift of sexuality with impure thoughts and looks for the sole motivation of sexual arousal  Depersonalizes a person; uses them as an object of selfish desire  Trains man to respond to wife for her sexual value, nothing else: she should be physically flawless and constantly sexually accessible; fosters the false mentality that casual, uncommitted sex is the most enjoyable sex  Porn sex is carefree; provides unrestrained pleasure independent of reality; escapes the reality of unmarried sex (pregnancy, STDs, guilt, fear, remorse, embarrassment, distrust) ◦ Wouldn’t it infuriate you if a guy looked at your daughter or wife in the same way one looks at porn – an object of fornication or adultery? ◦ JP II, stated, “The problems with pornography isn’t that it shows to much of a women, but that it shows too little. A duty of every man is to protect the dignity of every woman.”

11.  Responding to sexual urges ◦ Romance without Regret video with Jason and Christalina Evert  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REj1rhc4RUk http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REj1rhc4RUk ◦ Life on the Rock, Model for Chastity w’ Leah Darrow  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtasO-21E2U http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtasO-21E2U  Rape ◦ When sex becomes violent  Date rape  Acquaintance rape  Homosexuality – Heterosexuality  Gay marriage  Domestic sexual partners  Jesus’ law of love always was His priority ◦ “You are forgiven, go and sin no more.”

12.  Words defined in Chapter 12:  abortiondivorcemasturbation  abortifacientsdate rapelust  adulteryemotional-relationship sexNatural Family Planning  almost-committed sexfecunditypolygamy  Annulmentsfornicationprostitution  acquaintance rapeheterosexualityrecreational sex  chastityhomosexualitysinful  concupiscenceincestVenereal  contraceptionindissolubility

13.  Jean Donovan (St. Jean the Playful) ◦ Chastity calls for recognizing the fullness of meaning regarding our sexuality ◦ Ms. Donovan raised in a middle-class family in Connecticut  After college, was a business woman who drove her motorcycle to work  Described as “happy-go-lucky  Went to El Salvador to serve the poor, in spite of wanting to get married and have a family; but felt God’s call to help the poor ◦ Died at age 27 from a death squad in El Salvador  Jean integrated spirituality into every aspect of her life