1. Take A Stand! Against Family Violence Family Awareness

2. What does family violence mean to you?

3. Why do people turn to violence?

4. One in four people has been, or is being, abused. Myths:True or False

5. A violent person has a mental illness. Myths:True or False

6. Family violence is usually caused by alcohol misuse. Myths:True or False

7. Certain attitudes cause people to behave violently. Myths:True or False

8. People that are abused like to be abused. Myths:True or False

9. There is no excuse for violence. The person responsible for it is the one who inflicts it. Myths:True or False

10. Types of Violence  Emotional abuse  Psychological abuse  Neglect  Financial exploitation  Destruction of property  Injury to pets  Physical abuse  Sexual abuse  Homicide  Criminal harassment (stalking)

11.  Pushing or hitting someone  Throwing or breaking objects  Punching the wall  Kicking the door down  Mistreating an animal  Abuse that involves actions… Physical Abuse

12.  Yelling, insulting, reprimanding for little things  Making threats  Criticizing  Giving orders  Humiliating  Abuse you can hear… Verbal Abuse

13.  Not letting the person have money  Controlling the person’s access to money  Preventing the person from working  Not letting the person know about household income or how it is spent  Abuse that makes a person dependent… Economic Abuse

14.  Conjugal rape  Denying any physical contact or sign of affection out of revenge  Sexually degrading the person  Harassing the person  Abuse that affects intimacy… Sexual Abuse

15. A common pattern is: Psychological to verbal Verbal to economic Economic to sexual Sexual to physical Homicide/suicide Escalation of Violence

16. Tension building The Cycle of Violence Acute violent incident Justifying and blaming Honeymoon

17. Cycle of Violence The more the cycle repeats itself, the more frequent and severe the violent incidents become.

18. A portrait Child who was abused or witnessed abuse Believes in traditional gender roles Rigid and impulsive Blames others Socially isolated Those who Abuse Underlying reasons Emotional dependence Low self-esteem A need to feel safe, to control

19. A portrait Child survivor of abuse or witness Believes in traditional gender roles Tendency to excuse, downplay Socially isolated Low self-esteem The Survivor of Abuse Underlying reasons: Love and hope Guilt and shame Family and social pressures Dependence and fear

20. Physical impact: Visible physical injuries, scars, loss of appetite, sleep disorders, headaches, stomach problems, respiratory problems, fatigue, various health problems Impact on the Survivor of Abuse

21. Psychological impact: Fear, sadness, shame, guilt, powerlessness, loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress, anxiety, loss of personal identity, dependence, broken relationships with loved ones, isolation, depression, and suicide Impact on the Survivor of Abuse

22. –Depression –Loss of self-esteem –Legal problems –Problems at work –Possibility of retaliation by the person who is abused –Continuity of the violence Impact on the Person who Abuses

23. Take A Stand Against Family Violence Provide support Refer Other ways to become involved? How Can You Help?

24. Respect their decision Make sure they understand the risks Be supportive Make sure they will be safe Put them in touch with available resources When a Person who is Being Abused Decides to Leave

25. Respect their decision Tell them you are there for them Find out how you can stay in touch with them Develop a safety plan with them Tell them about available resources When a Person Being Abused Decides to Stay

26. Respect what they’re going through Respect what they say Respect their pace Remember Establish trust Ensure confidentiality Empower the person being abused

27. Where Can You Get Help ?

28. Insert local MFRC number, website, etc. Take a Stand! Make the Call! Where Can You Get Help?