1. Family Transitions: Healthy Good-byes and New Beginnings Psychological Counseling Center

2. What We Will Be Discussing  Common reactions to the transition  Challenges for families  Challenges for students  Tips for making a smooth transition  When to get involved  Campus resources

3. Common Parent Reactions  Pride/hopefulness  Relief  Guilt  Sadness/emptiness/loneliness  Loss of control  Worry/fear

4. Challenges for Families  Dealing with emotional and physical separation from your student  Feeling left out from your student’s life  Relinquishing some control

5. Challenges for Families  Changes in your parental role  Changes in other relationships (e.g., other children, spouse)  Dealing with visits home (e.g., weekends/holidays)

6. Challenges for Students  Homesickness  Stress  Establishing own identity  Establishing independence  Finances

7. Challenges for Students  Roommate issues  Socializing (fitting in)  Academic pressure/ expectations  Time management

8. Tips for a Smooth Transition  Redirect time and energy  Be open to adopting a different role with your student  Be a good listener  Allow for mistakes  Don’t take changes in your student’s behavior personally

9. Tips for a Smooth Transition  Stay connected  Guide rather than pressure or rescue  Discuss values and expectations  Expect ups and downs

10. When to Get Involved  Repeated tearful phone calls  Unexplained weight gain/loss  Frequent illness or fatigue  Insomnia or other sleep problems  Any very unusual behavior

11. Campus Resources  Resident Advisor, Resident Director  Psychological Counseling & Wellness Student Services Center 430  530-898-6345 Student Services Center 430  530-898-6345 www.csuchico.edu/cnts www.csuchico.edu/cnts  Student Health Services  Student Learning Center  Academic Advising  Disabled Student Services

12. Campus Resources  Alumni and Parent Relations Parent handbook (csuchico.edu/alumni/parents) Parent handbook (csuchico.edu/alumni/parents)  Student Activities (clubs/organizations)  For parents: “Don’t Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money” by Helen E. Johnson & Christine Schelhas-Miller  For students: www.campusblues.com  In case of emergency: THE FOOLPROOF METHOD