1. Chapter 7
Dating

2. 7:1
The Dating Proces

3. DATE MY DAUGHTER
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4. What is the Purpose of Dating
You keep a positive attitude about yourself
You avoid a long-term commitment too early in life
You make decisions that are consistent with your long-term goals

5. Functions of Dating
Dating is the pathway that leads to engagement and marriage

6. Understanding Others Develop close romantic friendships
Learn how others:
Think and feel
What they like to do
What are their goals

7. Understanding Yourself
Developing a relationship requires that you also share you ideas and feelings

8. Providing Companionship
Dating gives you the opportunity spend time with someone who shares your interests.
Feelings of friendship may develop into a deeper relationship as your spend more time with the other person.

9. Improving Communication Skills
Open communication is an important part of building any relationship
Your verbal and nonverbal message need to match
Need to practice active listening skills

10. Learning to Negotiate Sensitive to the other’s ideas and feelings
Helps you develop empathy
Helps you grow socially and emotionally

11. Learning to Be Responsible
Provides opportunities to take responsibility
Show responsibility for other commitments
Show another person that you care about them

12. Evaluation Personality Traits
Find out what personality traits you most like in a partner
Evaluate qualities and find those that do or do not appeal to you
What it takes to get along with your dating partner
The qualities you would like to find in your ideal mate for marriage become easier to identify

13. Stages of the Dating Process
Group Dating – a group of people spend time together and develop friendship
Pair Dating – a couple will develop a relations with each other
Steady Dating – a commitment to date only one person
The couple may make a serious commitment to become engaged for marriage

14. Group Dating Informal group dating
You can improve your social skills without making the commitment

15. Pair Dating
Two people spend time as a couple building their friendship
Double date – when another couple joins a date
Steady dating or going out- commitment to date only each other

16. The Advantages and Disadvantages of Steady Dating
Develop trust
Openness
Respect for each other
Being themselves
Resolving and handling conflicts in a positive way
Disadvantages
Limit your experiences with friends
Limit your opportunities to meet new people
Break up can be difficult
Feel trapped
Feel used or controlled
You may not want to hurt the other person

17. Beginning a Dating Relationship
Make your appearance count
Be friendly, confident, and courteous
Start a conversation
Listen intently to what the person shares
Plan some time together

18. Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Personal Boundaries
Personal Boundaries are limits for behavior that you will accept in your relationships
What you are willing to say
Think
Do in your relationship has crossed the line
When one person in the relationship forces that other to do something outside of his/her personal boundaries, it is a sign of abuse
Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship
Any kind of physical abuse
Verbal abuse
Demands on your time
Demands for sexual favors
Disrespect for your ideas, feelings and person

19. Ending a Dating Relationship
Dating relationships end in many ways:
May not have enough in common
Couples may drift apart
One partner many not feel the relationship is growing close
Breaking up most difficult of the person who wants to keep the relationship going
Realize your partner will feel hurt
Change your dating patterns
Recognize your feelings are normal
Emphasize other aspects of your life

20. Commitment to marry
Most people follow the dating process through engagement to marriage
Engagement is the formal commitment before marriage

21. 7:2
Love

22. Romantic Love
Infatuation – a strong feeling of attraction that tends to be self-centered or one-sided
Some people are disappointed when this feeling fades

23. Mature Love Mature love is different from infatuation
Characterized by giving and unselfish attitude
Committed to finding and doing what is best for each other
You cannot “fall” into mature love
Mature love grows as a relationship grow

24. The Growth of Mature Love
Develop Rapport
Personal Sharing
Trust develops
Dependency on each other
Feeling of satisfaction
Chart pg 156 and 157

25. Making the Decision to Wait
Set your personal boundaries
Peer Pressure
Media Pressure

26. Why Wait? Psychological Consequences Unwanted Pregnancy
Values
Does not mean commitment
Self-doubt, guilt, feeling used or abused, fear and lack of trust
Unwanted Pregnancy
Sexually Transmitted Infections
Human Papillomavirus (HPV) – genital warts
Gonorrhea
Chlamydia
Genital Herpes
Syphilis
Hepatitis B
HIV/AIDS

27. Responding to Pressure
Set your personal boundaries
Talk to your partner
Avoid situations that may cause you to be tempted
Never too late to make a decision to wait

28. Date or Acquaintance Rape
Rape – forced sexual intercourse
Date Rape – sexual intercourse with a dating partner
Acquaintance Rape – occur between friends, classmates, or coworkers
Date Rape Drugs cause victims to become physically helpless
Has no color, smell or taste