1. Chapter Eleven: Interpersonal Relationships: Growth and Deterioration
The
Interpersonal Communication
Book 11th Ed.
Joseph A. DeVito
Chapter Eleven: Interpersonal Relationships:
Growth and Deterioration
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2. After all, my erstwhile dear, My no longer cherished.
Need we say it was not love,
Just because it perished?
Edna St. Vincent Millay
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3. RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPTMENT
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4. Relationship Development
Uncertainty Reduction Theory
Social Penetration Theory
Relationship Dialectics Theory
Rules Theory
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5. Attraction theory
Developt relationships with those who are similar to you, who are physically close to you, who offer you reinforcement,whom you consider attractive physically and in personality, and who are of a desired socioeconomic and educational level
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6. Attraction Theory Attractiveness Proximity Similarity Appearance
Personality
Proximity
Similarity
Matching Hypothesis
Complementarity
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7. Affinity-Seeking Strategies
Be of Help to Others
Appear In Control
Present Self as Socially Equal
Present Self as Comfortable with Other
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8. Affinity-Seeking Strategies (continued)
Allow Other Some Control
Follow Cultural Rules
Appear Active, Enthusiastic, Dynamic
Stimulate and Encourage Other To Talk
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9. Affinity-Seeking Strategies (continued)
Engage In Self-Disclosure
Appear Optimistic
Appear to Other as Independent
Etc.
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10. Social Exchange Theory
Profits
Rewards
Costs
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11. Social Exchange Theory
You develop relationships that will enable you to maximize your profit (Thibaut & Kelley,1986)
A theory based on an economic model of profits and losses and begin with the following equation: Profits = Reward – Costs.
Enter & maintain relationships in which the rewards are greater than the cost. When the costs become greater than the rewards, the reason deteriorates
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12. Rewards: anything that you wuld incur costs to obtain
Types of rewards in a love relationships: money, status, love,information,goods (Baron & Byrne,1984)
Cost: things that you normally try to avoid,that you consider unpleasant or difficult
Profit: what results when the costs are subtracted from rewards.
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13. Comparison Levels Expectations for Profits in Relationship
Comparison Level for Alternatives
Profits from Another Relationship
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14. Equity Theory Ratio of Rewards and Costs Equal to Partner’s
Underbenefited, Less Likely to Succeed
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15. Equity theory
Develop and maintain relationships in which your ratio of rewards compared to cost is approximately equal to your partner’s
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16. Equity Theory (continued)
Relationship Satisfaction and Equity
Equity, Culture, and Gender
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17. RELATIONSHIPS MAINTENANCE
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18. Relationship Maintenance Behaviors
To Keep the Relationship Intact
To Keep the Relationship at its Present Stage
To Keep the Relationship Satisfying
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19. Reasons For Relationship Maintenance
Emotional Attachment
Convenience
Children
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20. Reasons For Relationship Maintenance (continued)
Fear
Inertia
Commitment
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21. Rules for Maintaining Relationships
Friendship Rules
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24. Rules for Maintaining Relationships
Friendship Rules
Romantic Rules
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25. Communication for Maintaining Relationships
Be Nice : polite,cheerfull,friendly,avoid critism,compromise, self -sacrifice
Communicate: talking about the honesty,& opennes in relationships, talking about shared feelings
Be Open: direct discussion & listen to the other
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26. Communication for Maintaining Relationships (continued)
Give Assurances: assure the other person of the significance of the relationship.
Share Joint Activities: spend time with the other
Be Positive: try to make interactions pleasant and upbeat
Focus on Improving Yourself
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27. RELATIONSHIPS DETERIORATION
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28. Causes Relationship Deterioration
Beliefs about Relationships
Excessive Intimacy Claims
Third-Party Relationships
Relationship Change
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29. Relationship Deterioration (continued)
Undefined Expectations
Sex-Related Problems
Work-Related Problems
Financial Difficulties
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30. Effects of Relationship Deterioration
Loss of Benefits or Rewards
Loss of Self-Esteem
Financial Implications
Not all Breakups are Bad
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31. Communication in Relationship Deterioration
Withdrawal
Decline in Self-Disclosure
Deception
Positive and Negative Messages
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33. RELATIONSHIPS REPAIR
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34. Relationship Repair Interpersonal Repair Recognize the Problem
Engage In Productive Communication and Conflict Resolution
Pose Possible Solutions
Affirm Each Other
Integrate Solutions into Normal Behavior
Risk
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36. Intrapersonal Repair Recognize Communication is Circular
Realize the Interactions are Punctuated
Stimulation and Response
Can Break Unproductive Circle
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38. Strategies for Disengagement
Use Positive Tone to Preserve Relationship
Negative Identity Management
Justification for Breakup
Behavioral De-escalation
De-escalate to Reduce Exclusivity
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39. Dealing with a Breakup Break the Loneliness-Depression Cycle
Take Time Out
Bolster Self-Esteem
Remove or Avoid Uncomfortable Symbols
Seek Support
Avoid Repeating Negative Patterns
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