2. CHANGE The irresistible force

3. What won’t help us.. Knowing change is needed is not enough Knowing what changes are needed is not enough We must know 1.HOW to make changes, 2.And that it doesn’t come easily

4. Cornell U. Study, April ‘05 Looking at self from a third person standpoint rather than a first person standpoint can be helpful. American Journal of Psychiatry, July ‘05 Guided self-change incorporating the use of a manual is as effective or more effective than behavioral therapy Breaking “change” down into “steps” is popular

5. Beverly Smallwood, Ph.D. 1.Early recognition of change coming 2.Clear understanding of the change 3.A plan of action 4.Acting out the plan 5.Using/adjusting the plan 6.Celebrating the “new” normal

6. Dr. Barry Duncan 1.C hallenge the killer “D”s 2.H onor your heroic self, validate your struggle 3.A dd a helper, recruit a partner 4.N ever underestimate your ideas 5.G ive yourself a chance, implement a plan 6.E mpower self, monitor, adjust, celebrate

7. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder your motivation

8. Romans 12:2 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Ephesians 4:23 …be renewed in the spirit of your minds

9. We can be motivated by… Love / dedication

10. 1 John 4:19, 9-10 19 We love because he first loved us. 9 In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. 10 In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 2 Corinthians 8:5 …and this, not as we expected, but they gave themselves first to the Lord and then by the will of God to us.

11. We can be motivated by… Love / dedication Hero / model

12. Matthew 10:24-25 24 “A disciple is not above his teacher, nor a servant above his master. 25 It is enough for the disciple to be like his teacher, and the servant like his master.

13. 2 Corinthians 9:1-2 2 for I know your readiness, of which I boast about you to the people of Macedonia, saying that Achaia has been ready since last year. And your zeal has stirred up most of them.

14. We can be motivated by… Love / dedication Hero / model Success / failure

15. 1 Corinthians 9:25 25 Every athlete exercises self-control in all things. They do it to receive a perishable wreath, but we an imperishable. Matthew 25:46 46 And these will go away into eternal punishment, but the righteous into eternal life.”

16. We can be motivated by… Love / dedication Hero / model Success / failure We ARE motivated by the Spirit or by self

17. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder you motivation 2.Position yourself for change Pro. 4:23 - Decision is in YOUR heart 1 Cor. 10:13 - God is faithful Phil. 4:13 - “CAN DO” is a promise Psalm 37:5- Trust in the Lord and do good…

18. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder you motivation 2.Position yourself for change 3.Prepare to change by study

19. Joshua 1:9 8 This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. 9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.”

20. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder you motivation 2.Position yourself for change 3.Prepare to change by study God’s word is for leaders

21. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. 8 You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

22. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder you motivation 2.Position yourself for change 3.Prepare to change by study God’s word is for leaders God’s word is for life God’s word is for leaving temptation anger self-control drug & alcohol jealousy loneliness lust depression gambling carousing etc., etc., etc.

23. A 12 Step Program for Change 1.Ponder you motivation 2.Position yourself for change 3.Prepare to change by study 4.Purposely turn

24. Acts 17:30 30 The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent, Acts 8:22 Repent, therefore, of this wickedness of yours, and pray to the Lord that, if possible, the intent of your heart may be forgiven you. Proverbs 28:13 Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy. Our Heavenly Father requires it

25. One will NEVER change until the decision is made. The turn/change starts in the mind, will, commitment Spiritual decisions are 100% OUR choice and OUR decision What will you change ?