1. THE IDEAL MARRIAGE - HOW HUSBANDS & WIVES SHOULD TREAT ONE ANOTHER

2. Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

3. Ephesians 5:25-28 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

4. Ephesians 5:29-33 After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery — but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

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10. If our world ever needed direction about how to succeed in marriage It’s today!

11. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives? - v25-33

12. A. The same way Lord Jesus treats His church. How does the Lord treat His church? I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

13. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 1. He loved her. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. - v25 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

14. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 1. He loved her. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. - v25 Luke 9:51 - As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

15. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 1. He loved her. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. - v25 Gave ( παραδίδωμι ) = hand yourself over. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

16. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 2. He made her holy.... to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word... - v26 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

17. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 2. He made her holy.... to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word... - v26 John 3:5 -... no one can enter the kingdom of God unless he is born of water and the Spirit. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

18. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 3. He presented her radiant.... and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. - v27 Radiant ( ἔ νδοξος ) = glorified, held in honor. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

19. A. How does the Lord treat His church? 4. How does the Lord feed & care for His church?... but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church — for we are members of his body. - v29-30 By providing His Holy Spirit! I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

20. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? Assertively! I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

21. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 1. A woman’s basic need is to be loved biblically. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

22. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 1. A woman’s basic need is to be loved biblically. a. Love ( ἀ γαπάω ) = giving because there’s a need. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

23. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 2. Love her sacrificially. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. - v25 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

24. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 3. Love her purely.... to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word. - v26 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

25. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 4. Love her caringly. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. - v28-29 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

26. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 4. Love her caringly. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. - v28-29 Ought ( ὀ φείλω ) = to owe, be in debt. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

27. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 4. Love her caringly. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. - v28-29 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

28. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 4. Love her caringly. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. - v28-29 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

29. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 4. Love her caringly. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church. - v28-29 Care ( θάλπω ) = to cherish. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

30. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 5. Love her unconditionally. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” - v31 I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

31. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 5. Love her unconditionally. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” - Genesis 2:24 a. A married couple is con- sidered by God as one unit. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

32. B. How is a husband to treat his wife? 5. Love her unconditionally. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” - v31 b. United ( προσκολλάω ) = cleave, glue yourself. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives?

33. I. How are Husbands Supposed to Treat Their Wives? - v25-33 II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands? - v22- 24

34. A. The same as the way the church responds to Lord Jesus. How does the church respond to Lord Jesus? II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

35. A. How does the church respond to Lord Jesus? 1. To the church, Jesus is Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. - v23 II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

36. A. How does the church respond to Lord Jesus? 1. To the church, Jesus is Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. - v23 2. As church members, we govern our lives by what His Bible says! II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

37. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

38. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 1. The husband’s basic need from his wife is respect. II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

39. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 1. The husband’s basic need from his wife is respect. Women do not naturally do this! II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

40. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 3. Men have been given authority, but also responsibility. II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

41. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 3. Men have been given authority, but also responsibility. Genesis 1:28 - Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” Genesis 2:18 - The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

42. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 4. Submit ( ὑ ποτάσσω ) = to rank yourself under, to obey. Fit in with your husband’s plans. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. - v22 II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

43. B. How is the wife to treat her husband? 4. Submit ( ὑ ποτάσσω ) = to rank yourself under, to obey. Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. - v22 5. Submission is natural to a biblically loving husband. II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

44. 6. It may have to come as an act of faith. I Pet 3:1-3 - Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

45. 6. It may have to come as an act of faith. I Pet 3:4-6 - Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. II. How are Wives Supposed to Respond to Their Husbands?

46. If modern day husbands & wives would just fit themselves into this pattern, they would have longer & happier marriages! Let’s do this God’s way & then expect His blessing!