1. Sexual Wholeness Teen Challenge NE & NJ October 4-6 2015 Sexual Wholeness Teen Challenge NE & NJ October 4-6 2015 1

2. What is Sexual Abuse? 2

3. Physical Sexual touching of any part of the body, clothed or unclothed Penetrative sex, including penetration of the mouth Encouraging a child to engage in sexual activity, including masturbation 3

4. Non Physical Intentionally engaging in sexual activity in front of a child Exposing genitals, ‘flashing’ Showing children pornography, or using children to create pornography 4

5. The Effects of Sexual Abuse Anxiety and/or confusion: panic attacks, fears and phobias Depression and suicidal thoughts Low self-esteem Shame and quilt over acts of commission and/or omission Inability to trust themselves or others Fear of feelings Nightmares and flashbacks Insomnia Amnesia Violence or fear of violence 5

6. Discomfort with being touched Compulsive sexual activity Social alienation Multiple personalities Unrealistic and negative body image Substance Abuse 6

7. PTSD and sexual abuse symptoms: If childhood sexual abuse is not treated, long-term symptoms can go on through adulthood. These may include: PTSD and anxiety. Depression and thoughts of suicide. Sexual anxiety and disorders, including having too many or unsafe sexual partners. Difficulty setting safe limits with others (e.g., saying no to people) and relationship problems. Poor body image and low self-esteem. 7

8. What gorilla? 8

9. Addiction G Blind you, Bind you, Grind you Sampson’s story G Takes you further than you want to go G Keeps you longer than you want to stay G Costs you more than you want to pay G Blind you, Bind you, Grind you Sampson’s story G Takes you further than you want to go G Keeps you longer than you want to stay G Costs you more than you want to pay 9

10. Carnes and Rening 1994 Making of a Sex Addict 87% had addicts in the family Family type: Rigid family 77%Disengaged Family 87% Rigid Disengaged Family 68% Childhood Abuse/Early Trauma Emotional 97% Sexual 81% Physical 72% 10

11. Shame Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging. Brené Brown 11

12. Sexual Addiction Cycle 12

13. God’s Plan Assessment & Treatment of Sexual Addiction by Mark Lasser 13

14. Tools for Recovery G Get close with Jesus G Ask Him to help you G Shut it down G Filter up G Be accountable G Expect withdrawal G Get close with Jesus G Ask Him to help you G Shut it down G Filter up G Be accountable G Expect withdrawal 14

15. John 8:31-32 To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” 15

16. Briangriswold.com 16