1. What’s So Scary About Submission?
The State of Our Unions
What’s So Scary About Submission?

2. Introduction Marriage is often a “tug-of-war”
This loving relationship turns into a struggle for power and control
The loser ends up in the mud
Many dislike the word – SUBMISSION
The word is difficult, disliked, and divisive
The submission of our text is – MUTUAL
SUBMIT – I limit what I might do naturally in order to benefit another.

3. What is Submission? What does “submission” look like?
The husband makes all the important decisions – financial, family, discipline.
The husband and wife should discuss and work together – husband has final say.
The husband is president; wife is vice- president
The husband controls the TV remote

4. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is … You apply to yourself Personal
Do not try to apply to others
Wives – Don’t tell your husband to step up or you will take charge
Husbands – Don’t tell your wife that she has to obey your orders.
Personal

5. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is …
Submission only makes sense in our relationship to Christ
Ephesians 5:21 - submitting to one another in the fear of God.
Ephesians 5:24 - Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
Personal
Spiritual

6. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is …
Ephesians 5:21 - submitting to one another in the fear of God.
NOT – all give or all take
People with power must submit to those with less power
Genesis 21:12b - Whatever Sarah has said to you, listen to her voice; for in Isaac your seed shall be called.
Personal
Spiritual
Mutual

7. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is …
Many think this is a terrible teaching of God
Women’s lib movement says, “You don’t have to submit to anyone.”
People with less power have input, ideas, suggestions
People with more power must listen, consider, submit
Personal
Spiritual
Mutual
Beneficial

8. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is …
Some think this means a woman must stay in an abusive relationship
“I’ll stay and submit to his beatings, even if it kills me.”
Submission does not mean that you stop thinking
You don’t give up your brain to submit
Personal
Spiritual
Mutual
Beneficial
Practical

9. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is … Today – Personal Spiritual
Emphasis is on personal freedom
My needs are first
We don’t yield the right of way to anyone
Submission is against the grain
Submission demands that we consider other people first
Personal
Spiritual
Mutual
Beneficial
Practical
Counter-cultural

10. 6 Secrets to Submission Submission is …
The Quest Study Bible – “A submissive spirit runs counter to society’s values and it always has. However, it remains God’s standard for all believers – male and female – for all time.”
Personal
Spiritual
Mutual
Beneficial
Practical
Counter-cultural

11. We all must submit
Show me a man who lays down his life for his wife, and I’ll show you a wife who has no problem with submission.
We must submit …
Church – to elders, deacons
Society – to law, leaders
Life – To God, Christ, the Bible

12. Are you in submission? Have you obeyed the gospel?
Believed in Jesus?
Repent of your sins?
Baptized for the remission of sins?
Are you living in submission to Christ?
Morally
Marriage
Spiritually