2.  Stage 1: Denial  Initial reaction to loss  Person cannot believe that the loss has happened  Stage 2: Anger  “Why me?” stage  Person can be critical, demanding, or uncooperative  Stage 3: Bargaining  Anger subsides as the reality of the loss sets in  Person may pray or promise to change if the person or object is brought back

3.  Stage 4: Depression  Silence and withdrawal  Person is no longer in disbelief and is no longer angry, but now is feeling extreme sadness  Quiet sadness sets in  Person feels helpless  Stage 5: Acceptance  Person now feels a sense of power  Person finds a way to deal with the loss in a constructive way  Person may make meaningful gestures surrounding the idea of the loss

4. Kubler - Ross Hope – runs through all stages. Hope keeps alive the thought that somehow someday the situation, item, or person may be returned. Closure – coming to an end of the intense parts of the grieving process.

5.  Consumed with thoughts of the deceased  Becomes overly depressed  Becomes a risk-taker  Talks of suicide  Hygiene changes  Removes self from friends  Drugs/Alcohol abuse  Depression – Warning signs:  Low motivation  Feelings of worthlessness  Sadness  Guilt  Suicidal thoughts  Isolation  Changes in behavior  Drug use

6.  Be available to talk or just be with the person when you’re needed. Let them know you are there for them!  Be a good listener – don’t ask probing questions!  Avoid making suggestions about how something else will make up for the loss.  Be patient – the person may need to be alone for a little bit.  Talk about the death/loss; share fond memories.  Respect how the other person grieves even if it’s different than your own way of grieving.  Write a note, letter, card, or email. Let them know that you care and that you’re there for them.  Be willing to get them help!

7. Someone at school Teacher Counselor Clergy member Psychologist … school or professional Doctor … especially if a person is experiencing serious, ongoing depression Hotlines Friends/family Community classes, clubs, and programs