2. A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools Resiliency Tools © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness

3. A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools “Welcome to ‘A Parents Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools to Your Children’. Being a parent is one of the most important and demanding jobs you will ever have. Our children grow up for better or worse and their family teaches them how they think about themselves; and they become what they think.” Noreen Hall Papatheodorou

4. RESILIENCY : being able to get through a hard or bad time and move on in one’s life. This guide has been developed to provide a tool box of suggestions on: how to handle feelings and emotions with situations; how to build talking bridges not walls when speaking; © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

5. Families teach us how to think and feel about ourselves. We learn what we can do,how we can be and a sense of our self-worth. We learn about values, hope and love. We also learn : * how to solve problems- or not * how to make decisions- or not * how to take responsibility for our actions- or not * how to take care of our health and well being- or not * how to get along with others- or not * how to talk with and treat others- or not Continue >> © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

6. What helps resiliency develop ?’ family community support/programs a person or people who believe in us religious/spiritual beliefs Children and teens who have a supportive adult or program in their life helps them develop resiliency. Resilience and coping are connected in handling what comes into one’s life. THE KEY : be flexible in choosing the coping tools. This depends on the amount of control and choices one has in a situation. A thought to remember : your child is parent to your adult. Whether we know it or not we become the adults our childhood has made us. © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

7. As children grow and move into the teenage years they will be facing more situations requiring them to make choices and decisions about their own health and well being. They will be the final decision makers as they reach adulthood. As a parent you are like a "Johnny or Janie Appleseed". You are planting ideas that may take root and sprout at some future time. Your intent is to prepare your child not just to handle today, but how to handle their future choices and decisions. Finding outside support may help you to solve some problems. © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

8. THE PARENT ROLE- QUESTIONS 1.How do you feel about yourself as a parent? 2. How do you feel about your child's health situation? 3. How do you feel about your role with handling your child's condition? 4. What are you teaching your child about a healthy lifestyle? You are the example setter. 5. Do you treat your child the way you like to be treated? 6. Are you the kind of parent you wanted your parents to be with you? 7. Do you set reasonable tasks and boundaries, and follow through consistently? Continued > > © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

9. < < Continued THE PARENT ROLE- QUESTIONS 8. Do you take or make the time to listen to your child? 9. Do you prefer to be the one to tell your child what to do, because you say so rather than say why you are saying it? 10. Do you make promises and keep them? 11. Can you explain the health situation to your whole family? 12. Do they know their family lifestyle will change in some ways? 13. Can you list the ways your family's lifestyle has changed or will change? 14. Attitudes are catching. Ask yourself: "Are mine worth catching ?" © Copyright 2010–Current All Rights Reserved Foundations of Wellness A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Resiliency Tools

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