1. The Christ- Centered Marriage Conforming to His Image Chapter 4

2. Col 3:10-14,18-21 10 and have put on the new man who is renewed in knowledge according to the image of Him who created him, 11 where there is neither Greek nor Jew, circumcised nor uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave nor free, but Christ is all and in 12 Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; 13 bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do. 14 But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection 18 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them. 20 Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. 21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

3. Agenda Wrong Focus Common misperception Fulfilling Commitments and Responsibility Striping away Pretenses Knowing who we are Forgiveness through love

4. I- Wrong Focus Our Character Other Person’s Needs Conforming to God’s image by fulfilling the needs of others My Greatest Needs Vs. My spouse’s Greatest Needs

5. II - Common misperception A) Individual Rights B) Our Role in others’ life C) Difference between discipline and judgment D) Sharing need appropriately

6. A- Individual Rights Individual Rights Responsibility Wife Submissive Love Wife as Christ&Church Child to obey Train them Get paycheck Do your work You can not demand Rights without fulfilling your responsibility

7. B- Our Role in others’ life Playing god in someone else’s life Accept them as they are, as Christ accepts us

8. C- Difference between discipline and judgment Discipline Judgment From Love & acceptanceinconsistence Relate to behaviors Related to Character Build on something you see or heard Eph 4:29” Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers”

9. D- Share Needs “You do not love me any more” Vs.: “I am not feeling loved anymore” The more we become like Christ, the more we love one another (1John 3:17)” But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?”

10. III- Fulfilling Commitments and Responsibility We should not run away from responsibility Our nature tries to escape

11. VI- Striping away Pretenses Act to look good

12. V- Knowing who we are Is the foundation of what we do?

13. IV- Forgiveness through love Forgiveness is the first step of Love We do not live with perfect people

14. IIV- Ruling Voice (Colossians 3:15) “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.”

15. John17:15: “I do not pray that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil one.”