1. Yousry Armanios, M.D. YARMANIOS@HOTMAIL.COM
+ The Challenges to Marriage التحديات الخطيرة في الزواج والأسرة St George & St Joseph Coptic Orthodox Church, Montreal, QC Couples Meeting – September 24, 2015
Yousry Armanios, M.D.

2. اختاروا لأنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب
+ البيت المسيحي
اختاروا لأنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب
يشوع 24:15

3. What God Has Joined Together, Let Not Man Separate”
JUST MARRIED!
What God Has Joined Together, Let Not Man Separate”
(Matthew 19:6) 3

5. The Ultimate: Marriage!
And, Family Life

6. Love Overcomes the Challenges
المحبة لا تسقط أبداً!
Love Never Fails!
الحب يتغلب على التحديات
Love Overcomes the Challenges
All Challenges! 6

7. العشرة تحديات The Ten Challenges الذات حل الإختلافات الترك الالتصاق
Our Ego!
Resolving the Differences
Leaving
Intimacy
Mammon
Boredom
Communication
Keeping the Boundaries
Mutual Trust
The New Visitors!
الذات
حل الإختلافات
الترك
الالتصاق
الماديات
الملل
التواصل
إبقاء الحدود
الثقة المتبادلة
الزوار الجدد! 7

8. العشرة تحديات الذات حل الإختلافات الترك الالتصاق الماديات الملل
التواصل
إبقاء الحدود
الثقة المتبادلة
الزوار الجدد!

9. Proper Communication:
Both spouses may love each other dearly, but without proper communication, that love goes unnoticed and the result is often terrible and tragic!

10. We Don’t Communicate Or Miscommunicate
Our Feelings When,
We Don’t Communicate Or
Miscommunicate

11. How Does It Feel When …?

12. The Image of God! Communication is about Love!
“So then, they are no longer two but one flesh.
“Therefore, what God has joined together, let not man separate”
Matthew 19:6

13. 1. The Radio: One-Way Communication!
2. “Skype”
Two-Ways Communication!

14. So, How Should We Communicate?
1. Verbal Communication
2. Non-Verbal Communication

15. Verbal Communication Please Consider …
Changing Your Old Stereotypes
Improving Your Skills: LISTEN
Each Other’s Right for Self-Expression
Using Always the “I” Statements!

16. Verbal Communication Takes Time to Help Us Understand our Differences
For women, it’s an end in itself
For men, it’s more of a means towards a goal
For both, it builds mutual interest and trust

17. Communication & Listening
“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” (James 1:19)

18. The Assertive “I” Statements Exercise:
“I” Feel …!
“I” Think …!
“I” Believe …!
“I” Need …!

19. 2. Non-Verbal Communication
Facial Features & Body Language
“Other” Four Languages of Love:
Time Together!
Unexpected (Surprise) Gifts!
Silent Help!
Messaging: (Dress; Cook; Initiatives …)

20. Negative Communication Patterns (1)
Interrupting
Stonewalling
Avoiding
Ignoring
Threatening

21. Negative Communication Patterns (2)
Mind Reading
Criticizing
Monopolizing/Polarizing
Cynicism
Passive Aggressiveness

22. Validation of Feelings: Your Prescription for Success!
+ Spot the Feeling
+ Address the Feeling:
Examples:
“Yes, I understand how you feel”!
“You sound like you’re …”!
“You look like you’re …”!
“There’s something bothering you”!

23. The Outcome: Problem Solving
Many Problems Can Be Avoided
If:
We Communicate Our Feelings!
Many Problems can Be Resolved
We Can Communicate Them Right!

28. اختاروا لأنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب
+ البيت المسيحي
اختاروا لأنفسكم اليوم من تعبدون أما أنا وبيتي فنعبد الرب
يشوع 24:15

29. Finally, Always Remember that:
“Love Never Fails”!
(1 Corinthians 13)

30. Thank You Q & A YARMANIOS@HOTMAIL.COM
Dr. Yousry Armanios