1. Some Tools For Team Building an Introduction 2010 Faith and Light International Formation Project Team

2. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 2 Preamble  God calls us, and entrusts this work to us, together.  Our primary work is to love one another as we have been loved.  Our way begins with becoming community together -developing and sustaining personal relationships through trust, sharing, reciprocity and support.

3. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 3  The quality of our relationships either promotes or goes against our mission; either attracts or pushes others away from Faith and Light.  Getting tasks completed or decisions made is secondary to how we work together – to how we live this responsibility together according to our shared values.

4. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 4  A crucial quality necessary for any leader in Faith and Light is the ability to work as a member of a Team. This ability is shown through each Team member ’ s humility and commitment to work together for the good of all.

5. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 5  The Team has greater wisdom, strength, giftedness and ability to fulfill our mission than any one of us alone.  We choose efficacy (doing a task well) over efficiency (accomplishing a task using the least amount of time, effort, cost and resources).

6. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 6  It is possible to accomplish more, with a better group “ spirit, ” by being truly present and being our brother ’ s and sister ’ s “ keeper ” even though it will require more time and effort.

7. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 7  We all share responsibility for the life and growth of Faith and Light. What we do with this responsibility differs according to the role that we have at the moment.

8. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 8 Commitment  Presence  We each commit to be as fully “ here ” and “ available ” as possible for the sacred work entrusted to us

9. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 9  Openness of mind and heart  to one another  to the work at hand  to the movements of God ’ s Spirit

10. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 10  Mutuality  to share from what I have been given and to welcome from what others have been given  this is not mine; this is not yours; this is ours.

11. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 11  Reliability  We will be there, accepting our share of the work and doing what we agree to do.

12. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 12  Trust  in God  in my companions  in the collective wisdom of Faith and Light

13. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 13  Full participation  willingness and freedom to work together with these people, giving what we can

14. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 14  Deal with and work through difficulties  We will face conflicts and difficult situations, working to resolve them in a spirit of loving cooperation.

15. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 15 Communication  The most crucial and problematic human activity

16. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 16  I commit to share with you about whatever affects our relationship and work together – feelings, concerns, ideas, desires, preferences, gratitude and sense of accomplishment.

17. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 17  Open / transparent  Honest  Direct  Respectful  Caring

18. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 18  Dialogue  Everyone listening and everyone speaking  I statements – My experience  Something is going on in me / with me  No talking about others  Clarification  if something is not well understood - ask  This is not clear for me.  Would you please explain?

19. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 19 Check-In  What do we need to know for us to be together and to better work together?

20. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 20  How am I at this moment? What am I experiencing?  Body, mind, spirit, heart, recent events  Feelings  Mad, sad, glad, afraid …

21. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 21  Vulnerability  Hopes  Fears (reassurances)  Hurts (grains of truth)  Dreams

22. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 22  Comfort level of intimacy  I decide how much detail I feel comfortable with sharing  Building Community  By sharing the gift of ourselves as we are

23. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 23  Blocks, barriers, distractions  Is there anything hindering me  Anything making it difficult  Anything “ pulling me away ”  from being more fully present now?  Response  What can be done?  What do you need?  How can we be with you in this?

24. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 24  Appreciations  Saying aloud things that have been well done  Recent experience about others and one ’ s self  I really liked the way …  This was very clear and well presented.  I feel good about how that turned out.

25. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 25 Collegiality =  Co-responsibility for the Common Good  We all share responsibility  We consider, seek and work to implement the good of all the members  We own our actions and their consequences  No blaming anyone else. This is ours.  What do we choose to do about it?

26. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 26  Decision making  Consensus (usual)  Agreement in the essentials  Is not compromise

27. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 27  Discernment by leader (in the absence of consensus)  Only as needed (rare)  Takes in account wisdom and leanings of the Team  Not because of time constraints or convenience  Not to avoid a difficult process

28. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 28 Common Ground  A starting place to work through or to deal with  “ Stuck places ”  Disagreements  Is it a matter of “ substance ” or of “ style ”  Principles or preferences  To disagree “ agreeably ”  We agree that we can have differing views, opinions, preferences, styles – that we can disagree about matters that are not essential.

29. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 29  Remembering together and returning to  Our common vision, values, vocation, mission  Charter and Constitution  How does this fit with or “ promote ” who we are, what we believe, what we hope to do  The facts (not opinions or interpretations of the facts)  Priorities / mandate  What has already been agreed to / decided upon

30. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 30 How we are using these Tools in this Session  Commitment - We are here, open and ready to learn from each other  We have many opportunities to practice good, effective communication  (e.g. exercise on “ I ” statements)

31. Faith and Light International Formation Session 2010 31  We are using the Check In with our small sharing group  Collegiality – We are learning how we all share responsibility for our communities and all our members  Common Ground – We are called to find common ground when we disagree with one another on important matters