1. Skills for Healthy Relationships
Chapter 6, Lessons 1-3

2. The Healthy Relationship Ch 6, Lesson 1
Relationships in Your Life
You have many types of relationships in your life, and you play different roles in all of them.

3. Relationship:
a bond or connection you have with other people
Friendship:
a significant relationship between two people based on trust, caring, and consideration
Citizenship:
The way you conduct yourself as a member of the community

4. Traits of Healthy Relationships
In a healthy relationship, people respect and support each other.
Mutual respect – you treat others with respect and they respect you in return
Caring – treat others with kindness and consideration
Honesty – honest and open thoughts, feelings, or actions
Commitment – you contribute to the relationship and work to keep it strong; may have to make some sacrifices in healthy and positive ways

5. Building Healthy Relationships
It takes work/effort to build and maintain a healthy relationship.
Communication – getting your message across to others and hearing their response
Cooperation – working together for the good of all; reaching a common goal
Compromise – a problem-solving method where each participant gives up something to reach a satisfactory solution

6. Respecting Yourself and Others Ch 6, Lesson 2
Respect for Yourself
Self-respect will strengthen your relationships – strong values (what you believe, your attitudes, and ideas of what is important) plays a role in respect for yourself; stay true to you!

7. Respect for Others
Showing the same respect you’d like them to show you
With strangers and casual acquaintances:
Common courtesy (i.e. saying “please” and “thank you”)
With family and friends:
Listen
Be considerate of others’ feelings
Develop mutual trust
Be realistic in your expectations

8. Tolerance:
the ability to accept others’ differences
Demonstrating tolerance can help you build healthy relationships
Tolerant people value diversity and other people’s differences (culture, interests, and beliefs). If you value others, you will be valued and respected by others.
“What comes around, goes around…”

9. Barriers to healthy relationships and disrespectful behaviors:
Prejudice – an unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people
Stereotype – an exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a particular group
Bullying – purposefully harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves
Hazing – making others perform certain tasks in order to join a group

10. Communicating Effectively Ch 6, Lesson 3
Three types of Communication Styles
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
Communicating Effectively Ch 6, Lesson 3

11. Aggressive – overly forceful, pushy, or hostile; may involve bullying or intimidation. This style may not pay attention to others’ thoughts, feelings, or needs
Passive – unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner; may put others’ needs before your own. This style dislikes conflict and goes out of way to avoid argument.
Assertive – expressing your views clearly and respectfully; standing up for rights and beliefs. This style involves respectfully negotiating with others to help find best solution to problems.

12. To communicate effectively, learn and practice Speaking Skills
Ways to Communicate
To communicate effectively,
learn and practice
Speaking Skills
Listening Skills
Nonverbal Communication

13. Speaking Skills
Say what you mean; direct and clear (respectful)
“I” messages – a statement that focuses on your feelings rather than someone else’s behavior (focus of “you” statements and how would others feel?)
Listening Skills
Paying close attention to what someone else is saying and communicating
Give full attention
Show interest (eye contact)
Re-state what you hear (summarize or rephrase)
Ask questions (for clarification and understanding)
Show empathy (relate to speaker)

14. Nonverbal Communication
Sometimes what you say isn’t as important as how you say it… tone can be contradicting.
Body language – nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture
Student role play demonstration? Can we guess what you are saying?

15. Offering Useful Feedback
Can improve relationships with others
Fact: in strong relationships, we can bother others by what we say or do… examples?
How do we communicate change? The goal of constructive criticism is to bring about positive change.
Use “I” messages focusing on problem, explain why, suggest a solution
Let others know what you appreciate from them as well… B-A-L-A-N-C-E… a little appreciation… (goes long and strengthens relationships)