1. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Transactional Analysis Anne Storey November 2007

2. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Parent Life as learned... Our Parent repeats and makes judgements on the basis of borrowed statements: OpinionsBeliefs ValuesExperience LimitsProtects Guidelines

3. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Adult Life as thought... Our Adult evaluates and processes information on the basis of facts and knowledge: Gathering DataProblem Analysis Rational ThinkingEvaluation The Here and Now

4. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Child Life as felt... Our Child can react more freely on the basis of pre-logical thinking and perceptions (sometimes distorted) and feelings FeelingsPolite Creativity Fun Rebellious Sulk

5. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Ego State Divisions A CPNP NCAC Controlling Parent Adult Natural Child Nurturing Parent Adult Adapted Child

6. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Making Conversations ‘Safe’ Watching for Fear Silence (withholding meaning from the shared pool)Silence (withholding meaning from the shared pool) –Masking: understating or only selectively adding –Avoiding: steering completely away from the subject –Withdrawing: exit the conversation or the room Violence (forcing meaning into the shared pool)Violence (forcing meaning into the shared pool) –Controlling: coercing others to your way of thinking –Labelling: to enable dismissal of ideas under a general heading –Forcing: dominating airtime, overstating, speaking in absolutes

7. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Making Conversations ‘Safe’ Bringing Back Safety Be curiousMutual Purpose Mutual Respect SimilaritiesWeaknesses Apologise Contrast

8. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Transactional Analysis Drivers Authentic Self Please People Be Strong Be Perfect Hurry Up! Try Hard

9. www.personneldynamics.co.uk Transactional Analysis Drivers Driver: Please People Driver: Be Strong Driver: Be Perfect Driver: Hurry Up! Driver: Try Hard Strengths: Teamworking Tunes in to people Involves people Strengths: Objective Calm under pressure. Able to make difficult people decisions Strengths: Well organised Accurate/detailed work Project planning Strengths: Delivers to time – and saves time Gets a lot done Responds well to pressure Strengths: Enthusiastic and proactive Good problem solver Follows up on all aspects of task Weaknesses: Lack of assertion Hesitance Reluctance to say no Can get upset Weaknesses: Not accepting help Self critical Over assertive Hard to get to know Weaknesses: Over checking Not involving others at draft stage Poor delegation De-motivating criticism Weaknesses: Makes mistakes Interrupts Books appointments too close together May not get to know people well Weaknesses: Takes on too much Gets sidetracked Makes jobs too big Discounts positives of self To Reframe: It’s OK to have own needs To Reframe: It’s OK to be vulnerable, ask for help To Reframe: It’s OK to make a mistake To Reframe: It’s OK to take your time To Reframe: It’s OK to succeed and recognise your successes