1. Empowering Your Child Presenters Ralph Whalen & Parents November 10, 2009 Welcome

2. Intro Theory & Class Parent Q: What good messages.. Messages kids receive What parents can do Reasonable Expectations When to be concerned Handouts Next Seminars Evaluation Meeting Overview

3. Goals Connect with others. Learn one idea about emotional health that will help you in your family. Learn from each other.

4. Conflict within yourself Pumsy, the puppet Change the way you feel by changing the way you think Guidance Topic

5. Something Bad Happens To You Feel Rotten (mud mind) Is This What Happens?

6. Something Good Happens To You Feel Good Is This What Happens?

7. A ction Happens TO You ABC Theory of Emotional Health

8. B elief Mud Mind Thinking A ction Happens TO You ABC Theory of Emotional Health

9. B elief Mud Mind Thinking A ction Happens TO You C onsequence Feel Bad (In Mud Mind) ABC Theory of Emotional Health

10. B elief Mud Mind Thinking A ction Happens TO You C onsequence Feel Bad, In Mud Mind A ction By You (Unhealthy) ABC Theory of Emotional Health

11. A ction Happens TO You B elief: Clear Mind Thinking ABC Theory of Emotional Health

12. A ction Happens TO You B elief: Clear Mind Thinking C onsequence Feel Good (In Clear Mind) ABC Theory of Emotional Health

13. A ction Happens TO You B elief: Clear Mind Thinking C onsequence Feel Good, In Clear Mind A ction By You (Healthy) ABC Theory of Emotional Health

14. B elief: Clear Mind Thinking C onsequence Feel Bad, (In Mud Mind) Solution: Change Your Thinking B elief Mud Mind Thinking

15. B elief: Clear Mind Thinking C onsequence Feel Bad, (In Mud Mind) Solution: Change Your Thinking B elief Mud Mind Thinking Choose Different Message

16. Table Discussion Question Introduce yourself What messages have you or your child received that helped shape a positive self esteem?

17. Pumsy Messages Negative Messages Positive I am no good.VS I am capable. I can’t stand it.VS I can handle it. I must be perfect.VS It’s Ok to make mistakes.

18. How Do Kids Get Messages? Said to them Said to others Observe

19. Where Do Kids Get Messages? Parents Siblings Relatives Other adults Other kids Media Need to protect younger children from damaging messages. http://www.youtub e.com/watch?v=iY hCn0jf46U

20. What Else Can You Do? Model Believe in child Connect Child Provide opportunities to contribute Praise effectively Say “No” Correct Correctly Provide Hope

21. Discussion Question? What are unreasonable expectations for this age group?

22. Reasonable Expectations No too low Not too high Stairs method Effort, not just outcome Accept limitations

23. Partner Question When do children get in their mud minds?

24. Emotional Outburst: What To Do Listen Identify the feeling Help problem solve Use Clear Mind Have faith in your child

25. When To Be Concerned Avoids tasks or Quits Makes excuses, cheats or lies Change in behavior school performance relationships sleep patterns Inability to concentrate Emotionally unstable

26. Q & A Handouts Next Seminar: Wed, Dec 3 “Responsibility: Give It To Get It” Evaluation Final Steps Thank You