1. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Lesson Two Maturity Issues and What I Value

2. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Goals To explore the physical, mental, emotional, and social dimensions of maturity. To gain awareness of what maturity and immaturity mean in relation to these four dimensions. To reflect on values and determine which ones are important to teens. To identify personality and character qualities that teens find attractive and important in others.

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4. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. EMOTIONAL Involves controlling and regulating strong emotions. Involves admitting mistakes and expressing true emotions. MENTAL Involves thinking; Involves weighing consequences and making wise choices. Involves setting goals and delaying gratification. PHYSICAL Physical changes of the body Involves the developing brain SOCIAL Involves thinking about your effect on others. Involves standing up to peer pressure when your friends challenge your standards, values or interests. Involves being the real you. Four Parts of Maturity

5. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Identify the contrasting maturity statements. Is it about emotional, social or mental maturity? Rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 for each statement Identify one of the statements where you think you have recently matured the most. Identify one or two statements that you feel are the greatest challenge or most difficult for teens. Why? ©Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved.

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7. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Values Auction—Silent & Public Look over the Values Important to Me Worksheet Write down your top four values on a sheet of paper. Pass the paper in; without names. In preparation for the auction, think about how important each value is to you and how much money you are willing to bid to win a certain value.

8. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Values Important to Me Having a best friend. Having a group of friends to hang out with. Being physically attractive. Being well-liked and popular. Having a physically fit body; being well-groomed. Being honest. Having money and nice clothes. Having others respect my sexual boundaries. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend. Being respected by my peers. Avoiding being hurt or hurting others in relationships. Feeling I can be myself/Feeling good about myself. Respecting or accepting people who are different than me. Being close to my family. Going to college/My education. Being spiritual/Practicing my religion. Having the freedom to make my own decisions. Helping others/Community service. Leaving sex out of my high school relationships. Waiting to have sex until I am married or engaged. Waiting to have sex until I am married. Getting married and having children some day. Avoiding drugs and alcohol. Not smoking cigarettes. Having a job that I really like.

9. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Values Auction Discussion What are the top five values? Are the values equally valuable? Why or why not? Is there a value missing from the list that you feel is important? Which values would you want to pass on to your children? Where do you think you learned the values that are most important to you? Are some of these values important to you now but might be less important to you after high school?

10. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Attractions and Appearances Activity What does this person’s face, pose, setting, body language or clothes say about her? If you had to imagine her personality and character, what words would you use?

11. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Attractions and Appearances Activity What does this person’s face, pose, setting, body language or clothes say about him? If you had to imagine his personality and character, what words would you use?

12. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Attractions and Appearances Activity What does this person’s face, pose, setting, body language or clothes say about her? If you had to imagine her personality and character, what words would you use?

13. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Attractions and Appearances Discussion Have you ever made an assumption on what someone was like only to discover that the person was totally different from what you first believed?

14. Copyright © 2007 by Marline E. Pearson. All Rights Reserved. Who Am I? and What’s Attractive Worksheet and Discussion So, beyond appearances—what’s REALLY important? What characteristics make you unique?