1.  Backstabbed: I found out that my best friend lied to me! My friend and I were supposed to go to a baseball match last Saturday, but he called me and said that he couldn't make it because of a splitting headache. Then, today I was told that another friend of mine saw him at the baseball match. I'm so upset and disappointed with him that I don't want to talk to him anymore ; but,at the same time I don't want lose him, either. I don't know what to do.

2. Work in groups of four. Brain storm the elements of good advice for three minutes.

3. Elements of good advice Be specific Reasoning for suggestion Be constructive not accusative Doable

4. Frustrated: I don’t think I’m not smart enough. I didn’t do well in middle school and I thought it was because I didn’t work hard enough. I decided to work harder and having four- hours of sleep everyday after I became a high school student. Since I’m a night person, I stayed up almost all night, studyings especially for this midterm exam. I thought I could be successful this time. Disappointingly, I got poor grades again. I don’t know what more to do to get better grades. Any tips?

5. check how you study (suggestion) think about how attentive you are during the class take notes on what you’ve learned and what you wonder about using color pens and sticky notes to fix bad habits (reason for your suggestion) lack of sleep can prevent you from being attentive Make your own summary of what you've learned and to ask the teacher about what you don't understand

6. 1. Work in pairs. your own problem 2. Think of your own problem. 3. Tell your problem to your partner. 4. Give tips to your partner. 5. Share your problem and tips with the whole group.

7. Think about your own problem Prep. time for giving advice Giving advice 2 min 2 min 1 min 1min

8. 1. Work in groups of six. 2. Number group members from one to six. 3. Odd numbers are clients and even numbers are counselors. 4. Odd numbers and even numbers sit in a row facing each other. 5. For one minute, ask for advice and give advice. 6. After finishing, clients move seats clockwise.

9.  Are the suggestions specific?  Do the suggestions have proper reasoning?  Are they doable?  Is your counselor sympathetic?