1. 2007 Dining In IG Brief Cadet Major Derek Gottlieb

2. Overview Dress and Appearance Dress and Appearance Arriving Arriving Socializing Socializing Eating Eating

3. Dress and Appearance Cadets will wear the Mess Dress or the Semi Formal Dress Uniform (aka Super Blues) Cadets will wear the Mess Dress or the Semi Formal Dress Uniform (aka Super Blues) Cadets DO NOT wear covers in either uniform Cadets DO NOT wear covers in either uniform All grooming standards still apply All grooming standards still apply Shave, Hair, jewelry, etc. Shave, Hair, jewelry, etc. Exception: Females may style hair in an “up do” (hair still needs to be above collar) Exception: Females may style hair in an “up do” (hair still needs to be above collar)

4. Dress and Appearance Cadets wearing Mess Dress Cadets wearing Mess Dress Do not wear fourragere Do not wear fourragere Females, the cummerbund pleats will face up (just like the males wear it) Females, the cummerbund pleats will face up (just like the males wear it)

5. Dress and Appearance

6. Guests Guests Civilians should be dressed in the civilian equivalent to what you’re wearing Civilians should be dressed in the civilian equivalent to what you’re wearing Mess dress equivalent = tuxedo or formal gown Mess dress equivalent = tuxedo or formal gown Super Blues equivalent = suit or semi-formal dress Super Blues equivalent = suit or semi-formal dress Other Military Service will wear equivalent uniform from their service Other Military Service will wear equivalent uniform from their service Mess Dress = Mess Dress Mess Dress = Mess Dress Semi-Formal Dress Uniform = Semi-Formal Dress Uniform Semi-Formal Dress Uniform = Semi-Formal Dress Uniform Cadets from other detachments may wear civilian clothes instead of a uniform (AROTCI 36-2008 4.1.4.2. Cadets from other detachments may wear civilian clothes instead of a uniform (AROTCI 36-2008 4.1.4.2.

7. Arriving Saluting and Place of Honor Saluting and Place of Honor You will STILL salute officers when outdoors (even though you aren’t wearing a cover) You will STILL salute officers when outdoors (even though you aren’t wearing a cover) When outside, cadets will be on the right side of their date so they can salute When outside, cadets will be on the right side of their date so they can salute If both are cadets, both will salute If both are cadets, both will salute Once inside, male cadets will be on the left side and allow for their date to be in the place of honor on the right Once inside, male cadets will be on the left side and allow for their date to be in the place of honor on the right Exception for two cadets, the higher ranking cadet is on the right Exception for two cadets, the higher ranking cadet is on the right

8. Arriving Public Display of Affection Public Display of Affection DON’T DO IT DON’T DO IT This includes: Holding hands, Kissing, Hugging, arm over the date’s shoulder This includes: Holding hands, Kissing, Hugging, arm over the date’s shoulder Gentlemen have arm horizontally across and close to his body. The lady holds the upper part of his arm. Gentlemen have arm horizontally across and close to his body. The lady holds the upper part of his arm.

9. Socializing Introducing Your Date Introducing Your Date Introduce your date to the commander and other members of the cadre Introduce your date to the commander and other members of the cadre Example: “Good Evening Colonel, I’d like you to meet my girlfriend. This is Susie” Example: “Good Evening Colonel, I’d like you to meet my girlfriend. This is Susie” Ladies should no longer be holding her dates arm Ladies should no longer be holding her dates arm Shaking Hands Shaking Hands Gentlemen, do not extend your hand to a lady Gentlemen, do not extend your hand to a lady It is proper for the lady to extend her hand, IF she wants to shake yours It is proper for the lady to extend her hand, IF she wants to shake yours Be sure to inform your dates about this Be sure to inform your dates about this

10. Socializing Do not talk shop (this means, don’t talk about ROTC) Do not talk shop (this means, don’t talk about ROTC) Bring a coin, if you are coin challenged, you may have a large bill if you don’t have a coin Bring a coin, if you are coin challenged, you may have a large bill if you don’t have a coin Keep voice to a reasonable volume level (no yelling) Keep voice to a reasonable volume level (no yelling)

11. In the Banquet Room Sitting and Standing Do not sit until the head table sits Do not sit until the head table sits Gentlemen always help the lady to be seated Gentlemen always help the lady to be seated If a lady from your table stands, all gentlemen should stand If a lady from your table stands, all gentlemen should stand When she returns, stand again until she is seated When she returns, stand again until she is seatedSocialize Talk to the other people at your table Talk to the other people at your table Keep conversations within good taste and within a reasonable volume (no yelling) Keep conversations within good taste and within a reasonable volume (no yelling)Uniform Do not remove your jacket unless the commander does Do not remove your jacket unless the commander does

12. Eating Before Eating Put your napkin in your lap Put your napkin in your lap Wait until the head table starts to eat Wait until the head table starts to eat Wait until everyone at your table has food before you start Wait until everyone at your table has food before you startPlacement Always use utensils from the outside and move inwards Always use utensils from the outside and move inwards Pass salt and pepper together and place them together in front of person requesting Pass salt and pepper together and place them together in front of person requesting

13. Eating While Eating: Lean forward while eating so if anything falls it will fall on your plate. Lean forward while eating so if anything falls it will fall on your plate. Chew with your mouth closed Chew with your mouth closed Wipe your mouth with a napkin before taking a drink. Wipe your mouth with a napkin before taking a drink. Don’t take too large of a bite, don’t talk with your mouth full of food. Don’t take too large of a bite, don’t talk with your mouth full of food. Skim the top of soup and sip it from the side of the spoon. Skim the top of soup and sip it from the side of the spoon. Inedible items should be taken out of mouth the same way they were put in. Inedible items should be taken out of mouth the same way they were put in. Put finger foods on bread plate (break off pieces of your roll with your fingers prior to sticking them in your mouth—when you’ve broken a piece off you may apply butter if you so desire) Put finger foods on bread plate (break off pieces of your roll with your fingers prior to sticking them in your mouth—when you’ve broken a piece off you may apply butter if you so desire)

14. Eating When Finished: When finished lay your napkin on the left side of your place. When finished lay your napkin on the left side of your place. Leave your plate with the fork and knife crossed. The fork’s tins should be down. Leave your plate with the fork and knife crossed. The fork’s tins should be down. When done with a course, place dirty silverware crossed sideways on the plate. When done with a course, place dirty silverware crossed sideways on the plate.

15. Eating Miscellaneous Don’t wipe lips, pat them. Don’t wipe lips, pat them. Ignore silverware that falls on the ground. Ignore silverware that falls on the ground. Pass all serving dishes in the same direction. Pass all serving dishes in the same direction. Excuse yourself to take care of personal grooming (restroom). Excuse yourself to take care of personal grooming (restroom). Keep free hand on lap or wrist on side of table. Keep free hand on lap or wrist on side of table. Drink responsibly and legally. Drink responsibly and legally. No lewd dancing No lewd dancing

16. Eating USE COMMON SENSE. USE COMMON SENSE. Don’t gesture with silverware Don’t gesture with silverware Don’t push your plate away and lean back when finished Don’t push your plate away and lean back when finished Don’t place purses on the table. Don’t place purses on the table. Don’t wipe mouth while holding silverware. Don’t wipe mouth while holding silverware.

17. Summary Dress and Appearance Dress and Appearance Arriving Arriving Socializing Socializing Eating Eating