1. Life Works, Character Counts and the Friends of the Blake Library Present Teen Talk Speaker: Susan Dockerill Founder of Life Works Parenting Tools

2. Teen Talk Relationship Communication New Direction

3. RELATIONSHIP Nothing Works if the Relationship doesn’t work.

4. POWER Power Over Blame Others Angry Power Under Blame Self Guilt/Permissive Personal Power Take 100% Responsibility Empowered In Control of Your Life

5. FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real

6. ACT A Way of behaving when things don’t go your way. 3 to 5 years old

7. PAST Being right Attitude It’s not my fault Fighting Anger Out of Control Blame No Responsibility Life’s Unfair Lying No trust I didn’t do it Fear Anxiety Depression Arguments Hurt I hate you!

8. Feeling Stoppers Moralize Lecture Humiliate Interrupt Calling names ignoring Punishing Sarcasm Comparing to others Rescuing Assuming Making her feel guilty

9. If nothing changes the future will resemble the past. Default Future PastNOWFuture

10. RELATIONSHIP Re-Establish The Relationship Focus on what you want to have happen in the relationship. Clean up your part in why the relationship doesn’t work What are you attached to? What are you committed to?

11. Feeling Encouragers Listen Intently “What Else” Be Curious “Tell me some more” Then what happened?” Validate Feelings “ I can see you are really upset about this” Empathy “If I were you I’d feel the same way”

12. Communication How People Perform Correlates to how the situation occurs to them. How a situation occurs includes your view of the past (Why things are the way they are) and the future (where all this is going) Our actions relate to how the world occurs to us, not to the way it actually is.

13. If nothing changes the future will resemble the past. Default Future PastNOWFuture

14. RACKETS Complaint Act Pay Off Cost

15. Attatatchments Cell Phone IPOD Computer MY SPACE Being popular Not looking stupid Grades Computer TV Sex Clothes Weight Sports Friends Skateboarding Drugs and Drinking

16. What will happen if nothing changes?

17. If nothing changes the future will resemble the past. Default Future PastNOWFuture

18. Learn How To Live Powerfully and Love the Life You Live! Redirecting Children/Teen Behavior RCB BOOK and Workbook 5 Thursday Evenings 7:00 9:00pm May 21, 28 June 4,11,18

19. NOW WORD

20. What if you could learn how to communicate in a way… Touch Move Inspire

21. Attatatchments Cell Phone IPOD Computer MY SPACE Being popular Not looking stupid Grades Computer TV Sex Clothes Weight Sports Friends Skateboarding Drugs and Drinking

22. Word +Action = New Possibilities Invented Future PastNOWFuture

23. NOW WORD

24. Commitment Peace in your home Love Forgiving Taking Care of Yourself Friendship Financial Freedom Mutual Respect Happiness Listening Love Caring Keeping your word Living your dream Responsibility

25. RELATIONSHIP Re-Establish The Relationship Focus on what you want to have happen in the relationship. Clean up your part in why the relationship doesn’t work What are you attached to? What are you committed to?

26. TeensUniteUSA.COM New Possibility Website Connecting Teens to Careers Volunteer hours Peer Teen Coaching Teen Tutoring

27. NEW POSSIBILITES What is possible for you after tonight’s seminar? What are you committed to? What action will you take to keep this going?