1. Abstinence By: Patricia Hiner, RN

2. Fences? Invisible Dog Fence

3. Your Fence It’s invisible YOU can control who comes inside the fence without letting go of the safe boundaries, or limits, you have around your self. You can strengthen the safety fence around yourself by having a plan for your behavior that keeps you safe.

4. Goals Do you set goals for yourself? Exercise Make a certain grade on test Make it to 8 th grade Get to high school Go to college No sexual activity (sexting) until marriage Do not take drugs Do not drink alcohol

5. Reaching Goals: Specific, realistic goals work best. Exercise – specific? Realistic? It takes time for a change to become an established habit. It takes time for your brain to adjust to a new routine. Repeating a goal makes it stick. Say it out loud, write it down. Pleasing other people doesn't work. It must be something YOU want! Roadblocks don't mean failure. Slip ups are part of retraining your brain!

6. What is Abstinence? Definition of Abstinence: Any self-control – choosing not to do something that you may want to do.

7. Dating Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple. Two people getting together for an activity when the possibility of romance between them has been broached but not ruled out. Since the exploration of romance is the purpose of a date, merely asking someone out on a date is sufficient to broach the subject. Dates may or not continue once a couple have entered into a romantic relationship. The word "date" may be used to identify a get together between two people not romantically involved, but this usage is meant to convey irony, since such a meeting is not a date in the true sense of the word. Yeah, Mike and I went on a date last night. He's cute, but I'm not sure if I want to get involved with him or not.

8. Abstinence: Based on survey information, most 7 th, 8 th and 9 th grade students have not had sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is all types of intercourse – oral, anal, and vaginal intercourse. The ONLY 100% guaranteed way to avoid pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, STIs

9. News U.S. Teens Waiting Longer to Have Sex: CDC Report finds less than half of those aged 15 to 19 have had intercourse Wednesday, July 22, 2015WEDNESDAY, July 22, 2015 (HealthDay News) -- Less than half of U.S. teenagers aged 15 to 19 are having sex, a rate dramatically lower than it was a quarter- century ago, a new federal government report shows. Find the complete article at: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_153725.html SOURCES: Gladys Martinez, Ph.D., demographer/statistician, National Center for Health Statistics, U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention; Jill Rabin, M.D., co-chief, division of ambulatory care & women's health programs-PCAP Services, North Shore-LIJ Health System, New Hyde Park, N.Y.; July 22, 2015, U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, NCHS Data Brief The Good News!

10. Sexting Sexting involves sending or receiving sexually explicit images, messages, or videos via a cell phone or the internet. While some teens say they’re sexting as a “joke,” others claim they do so because they’re peer pressured by their friends. For many teens, sending sexually explicit content has become a “normal” way to engage with others. Research studies show that as many as half of all teens are engaging in sexting prior to the age of 18.

11. Here are some of the major dangers of sexting: 1. Nude Pictures of Minors Constitutes Child Pornography Currently, state laws vary about the rules and regulations on sexting. While minors exchanging nude photos is considered a misdemeanor in some states, in other states it’s considered a felony. Some teens may even be labelled as sex offenders for possessing sexually explicit images of their peers. News The Not so Good News!

12. News 2. Pictures Stay In Cyberspace Forever Many teens mistakenly believe that a photo sent via text message or email will only be able to be viewed by the recipient. But electronic images remain in cyberspace and could be seen by other people. Many celebrities have made headlines when their "private photos" were made public. Recently, the social media site Snapchat proved this to be true. The Not so Good News!

13. News 3. Nude Photos Can Be Used as Blackmail A teen who sends a nude photo during an impulsive moment may later be subjected to blackmail. The recipient of a sexually explicit image may threaten to share it publicly if the sender doesn’t comply with certain demands. Unfortunately, many teens who have been subjected to such threats choose to comply because they're too embarrassed or fearful to seek help. The Not so Good News!

14. News 4. Inappropriate Photos Can Harm Your Reputation Messages that were meant to be privately viewed by a romantic interest can quickly become public information. The recipient may show off photos to friends or may make the photos public after a break-up by posting them on social media sites. When messages and photos are made public, a teen's social life is likely to be impacted. But that's not the only way a teen's reputation can be damaged. College admissions staff, employers, or even potential future romantic partners may access the information years later and it could interfere with your goals. The Not so Good News!

15. 5. Sexually Explicit Content Has Been Linked to Bullying A jealous girl who has access to sexually explicit content from her boyfriend’s last relationship may share the photos on social media. Or a teen engaging in cyberbullying may pretend to be someone else in order to ascertain and share embarrassing content in an effort to humiliate the victim. Unfortunately, there have been many cases where sexually explicit messages and photos have been used to embarrass teens. In extreme cases, the public humiliation has caused teens to experience depression and anxiety. The most severe cases have ended in suicide following the ongoing torment and humiliation. News The Not so Good News!

16. Recognizing Risks Sometimes circumstances lead us to participate in risky behavior, increasing the chance that we will engage in sexual behavior. Going out with someone you don’t know very well. Going to parties where drugs and alcohol are being used. Going to houses where there are no adults or parents.

17. What are my Risks? Unplanned pregnancy STIs HIV/AIDS Chlamydia Genital Warts (HPV) Herpes Gonorrhea Hepatitis B Syphilis How can having a plan reduce my risks?

18. Why Have an Action Plan? You can think clearly about what you want to do without being pressured. You can practice telling others your action plan and your limits. You have time to decide without pressure. You can talk to your friends about your plan, before you’re in a risky situation. You can choose friends who support your plan and limits. You can talk to your parents or trusted adults about your plan.

19. How do I Make an Action Plan? Talk to parents/trusted adult What are their expectations for you? Decide what your limits are: Kissing Holding hands What are other ways to show affection without sexual intercourse? Choose to save sexual intercourse until marriage – abstinence the ONLY 100% guaranteed way to avoid pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, STIs

20. Brad’s Action Plan I will wait until I am 16 years old to date I will go to a girl’s house only when her parents are home I will not use alcohol or other drugs I will kiss and hug someone I like, but not go any further.

21. LaTisha’s Action Plan I will only date guys who are my age or a year older. I will only go on dates with other couples along. I will not sit in a parked car with a date. I will not go to parties where alcohol and drugs are available. I will keep my clothes on when I’m with a boy. I will have someone I can call if something happens to my plan. I will wait to have sexual intercourse.

22. How do I Share My Plan? Let others know your plan in a firm and respectful way. Address the person by name. State your plan clearly and simply: Say what you will do. Say what you won’t do. Use one sentence each. What if they don’t seem to hear me?

23. Are you Listening? Repeat your message. Say “Listen to me.” If you are interrupted, continue from where you were interrupted. Use body language: Stand up straight and tall Look the person right in the eye Face the person Speak clearly, slowly and in a firm voice

24. Is There Trouble? We need to recognize when we may be headed for trouble. How can we identify trouble? Ask questions: this will help you find out exactly what you are being invited or asked to do. Name the trouble: Say what is wrong with the situation that might become a problem. State the consequences. List the negative outcomes that could result if you were to go along with the invitation.

25. Refusing Sometimes communicating your plan and avoiding the risk is just not enough. You have to refuse the invitation. Here are some ways to refuse: Say a direct “no.” Simplest and most effective. Suggest another activity. Be a broken record, say “no” over and over. Say why not by stating a fact or your feelings and opinion. Walk away. Don’t make up excuses or yell or use put-downs.

26. Change in Teen Pregnancy Rate Among Girls Age 15-19, 1991 - 2011 (Percent) Tennessee -45% U.S. -49%

27. Abstinence The ONLY 100% guaranteed way to avoid pregnancy, HIV/AIDS, STIs!