2. Acknowledgements  There is a variety of copyrighted material contained in this PowerPoint presentation and every attempt has been made to acknowledge it and no copyright infringements are intended.

3. Introduction: The Cycle of Violence

4. Domestic Violence Defined - Criminal  There are two types of domestic violence behavior: Criminal and non-criminal.  Criminal behavior includes but is not limited to uninvited physical contact such as striking, kicking, biting, sexual coercion and abuse, marital rape, intimidation by stalking, computer hacking, and criminal isolation.

5. Domestic Violence Defined- Non-Criminal  Non- criminal behavior includes but is not limited to being denied access to friends or other social contacts.  Shadowing, restricting the use of the telephone by securing phones in a locked or temporary removal during the time the abuser is away.  Denying access to family finances.

6. Domestic Violence Statistics  Every day 4 women, 1 man and almost 5 children die as a result of domestic violence.  I in every 4 women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.  Females ages 20-24 years of age are at the greatest risk for intimate partner abuse.  In 2005, 389,100 women and 78, 180 men were victimized by an intimate partner

7. Domestic violence isn’t always violent… The scope of domestic violence is far more reaching than the black eye of the raised fist.

8. Domestic violence: words can have the same impact as a punch

9. The Face of The Abused – Women Domestic violence does not discriminate based on gender, ethnicity, age or socio-economic status. Women, however, represent the largest number of domestic violence victims.

10. The Face of The Abused – Men Male victims of intimate partner abuse are less likely to report belittling and physical abuse because of the social stigma of appearing weak and disbelieved

11. The Face of The Abused – The Elderly  Incidence of elder abuse was found to be 32 of 1,000 in persons over age 65.  Elderly men are as likely to be abused as elderly women.  Elderly women sustain more severe physical and psychological injury.

12. The Face of The Abused – GLBT  In 2003, lesbians, gays, bisexuals or transgendered people experienced 6,523 incidents of domestic violence; 44% were men, 36% women and 2% transgender.

13. The Face of The Abused – The Children  For every hour, as many as 115 children are abused. 90% of children from violent homes witness their fathers beating their mothers.  63% of all boys, age 11-20, who commit murder, kill the man who was abusing their mother.  Children in homes where violence occurs are physically abused or neglected at. a rate 1500% higher than the national average.

14. The Consequences of Domestic Violence  Children are products of their environment. This includes parental modeling, both positive and negative.  Children of abuse often grow up to become abusers and abused.

15. The Consequences of Domestic Violence  Every year, domestic violence results in almost 100,000 days of hospitalizations, almost 30,000 emergency department visits, and almost 40,000 visits to a physician.

16. The Consequences of Domestic Violence Children exposed to domestic violence experience fear, anxiety, low self- esteem, withdrawal and poor performance in school.

17. The ultimate consequence…  Every day nearly ten people die as a result of domestic violence in the United States.

18. The Journey From Victim to Survivor of Domestic Violence  A map to guide your way…

19. A note of encouragement…  Invictus  Out of the night that covers me, Black as the pit from pole to pole, I thank whatever gods may be For my unconquerable soul.  In the fell clutch of circumstance I have not winced nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeonings of chance My head is bloody, but unbowed.  Beyond this place of wrath and tears Looms but the Horror of the shade, And yet the menace of the years Finds and shall find me unafraid.  It matters not how strait the gate, How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.  William Henley 

20. The journey begins with you …  One of the hardest lessons in life to the acceptance of the fact that we cannot change the behaviors of others, only our own.  It is up to you to make a commitment to yourself to safely leave a dangerous and potentially life-threatening situation and begin to enjoy a quality life free of abuse.

21. The rationale of a strategy The life of a relationship can be filled with love, respect, mutuality, honesty and all the emotional components that make for a good partnership. When the partnership is no longer workable, a couple may decide to split and agree to disagree amicably or with animosity.  The life of a relationship can also be filled with the ugliness of power and control and violence. Fear becomes the glue that loosely binds a couple to each other; the fear of violence and verbal abuse. There is the fear of loss – the loss of material things, the loss of inclusion, and the loss of the ability to survive independent of the abuser.

22. Yes, you have options… This or This

23. We can help…www.mdeanwalkerandassociates.com Marsha Dean Walker, MSHS, HS-BCP James E. Eastwood, CIS, CFP

24. My name is Marsha Dean Walker and I made the journey from victim to survivor, and you can do it to.

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26. Food For Thought …  October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. There are 754 hours in the month of October. As many as 115 children are abused in one hour. That is 11, 310 children too many.  There are 754 hours in the month of October. As many as 4 women, 1 man and almost 5 children who die every 24 hours as a result of domestic violence. That is 310 people too many.  74% of Americans are currently being abused or know someone who is. There are 8,760 hours in a year. Shouldn’t we be more than aware every day of every week, of every month, of every year?