1. Dating Violence
Jennifer Carter

2. Overview Statistics & Definitions General Dating Violence Information
Warning Signs
Charts
Heather’s Law
Curriculum Activity
School Prevention Information
School Faculty Resources

3. General Definitions
Teen Dating Violence- a pattern of actual or threatened physical, sexual, emotional, and technological abuses perpetrated by an adolescent against a current or former dating partner (A Safe Place, 2010)
Domestic Violence- a pattern of behavior in which one intimate partner uses physical violence, coercion, threats, intimidation, isolation, and emotional, sexual, or economic abuse to contol the other partner in a relationship. Stalking or other harassing behavior is often an integral part of domestic violence (FBI, 2001)

4. Teen Dating Statistics
Approximately ONE in THREE high school students have been or will be involved in an abusive relationship
Forty percent of teen girls ages 14 to 17 say they know someone their age who has been hit or beaten by a boyfriend
Teen dating violence most often takes place in the home of one of the partners
More than 4 in every 10 incidents of domestic violence involves non-married persons
Teens primarily use technology as a means to abuse (Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)
ACADV, 2010

5. Types of Abuse Physical Sexual Verbal & Emotional
Pinching, shoving, slapping
Intimidation (throwing objects)
Use of weapons
Sexual
Unwanted touching, threats to break up or find someone else, pressure to have sex
Verbal & Emotional
Put-downs, insults, rumors, threats, possessiveness, accusations, isolation, humiliation, overdependency
(Choose Respect, 2010)

6. New Factor in Abuse: Technology
Research has determined that technology has made teen dating abuse more pervasive and hidden
Many teens are not telling their parents about this tech abuse in their dating relationships, which has resulted in a knowledge gap between the frequency of abusive tech behavior parents are aware of and what is really going on in teens’ lives
In this study it was found that teens believe dating abuse via technology is a serious problem that involves an array of technology activities: ing, texting, Iming, phoning, & social network sites
Many teens in this study claimed it is happening to them and that they are doing it to others
Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

7. Tech Stats
One in three teens who have been in a relationship say they’ve been text messaged 10, 20, or 30 times an hour by a partner finding out where they are, what they’re doing, or who they’re with
One in five teens in a relationship have been asked by cell phone or internet to engage in sexual activity when they did not want to
Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

8. Technology Stats
71% of all teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends spreading rumors about a dating partner through technology to be a serious problem
68% of teens regard boyfriends/girlfriends sharing private or embarrassing videos or photos of a dating partner to be a serious problem
Almost two-thirds of teens judge threatening physical harm using common tech devices to be serious
Sample of 615
Glauber, Randel, & Picard, 2007)

9. Thatsnotcool.com

10. Early Warning Signs in the Relationship
Extreme Jealousy
Controlling Behavior
Quick Involvement
Unpredictable Mood Swings
Alcohol & Drug Use
Explosive Anger
Isolates From Friends & Family
Uses Force During An Argument
Shows Hypersensitivity
Believes in Rigid Sex Roles
Blames Others for His/Her Problems
Cruel to Animals or Children
Abused Former Partners
Threatens Violence
Alspaugh, 2009 & ACADV 2010

11. Dating Violence Cycle

12. Power & Control Wheel

13. Indicators A Teen May Be Experiencing Dating Violence
Physical Signs of Injury (unexplained scratches or brusies
Truancy, Dropping out of School
Failing Grades
Indecision
Changes in Mood or Personality
Constantly checking cell phone
Angry when asked how they are doing
Use of Drugs/Alcohol
Pregnancy
Emotional Outburst
Isolation
No longer hanging out with his/her friends/withdrawn
Wearing the same clothing
Distracted
Showering immediately after getting home
Miller, 2010

14. Actions Educators Can Do When Faced With Dating Violence Issues
Tell the person who is being abused that you are concerned for his/her safety
Acknowledge the abuse is not the person’s fault
Listen- Be supportive and patient
Do not judge or criticize
Help the person develop a safety plan that focuses on preventing future harm
Never confront the abuser- this could be dangerous
Encourage the person to talk to others who can provide help and guidance
(Youtube, 2008)

15. Heather’s Law
Developed in memory of Heather Norris, who was abused and later stabbed and dismembered by her boyfriend, whom she began dating her senior year of high school
12% of Hoosier teens report being hurt by someone they’re dating (Indiana Youth Institute)
Signed into law on April 12, 2010
Requires that all Indiana schools implement a dating violence education curriculum by July 1, 2011
The school curriculum on teen dating violence should include: basic principles of dating violence; warning signs of dating violence; and the school's dating violence policy.
Dewberry, 2010

16. Other Indiana Laws 2010
In Indiana, minors can obtain Civil Protection Orders (CPOs), and courts can issue CPOs against minor abusers. Indiana also allows people in dating relationships to seek CPOs against their abusers.
State law does not specify whether minors can petition for CPOs on their own behalf.
A judge may issue a CPO when “the respondent has physically abused, sexually abused, threatened to physically abuse, stalked or harassed the petitioner” (other forms of abuse are also recognized).
Break the Cycle, 2010

17. Curriculum Activity Teen Dating Violence Curriculum: 5 day program
Right Side: Stay
Left Side: Go
Lilley, 2003

18. Prevention: Faculty Teach & Demonstrate
Anger Control
Problem Solving
Negotiation & Compromise
Assertiveness
Fighting Fair
Understanding
Listening
Being a Role Model
Make your classroom a place for your students to come and talk to you about sensitive issues like teen dating violence
Create opportunities for students to speak out about things
Increase awareness of teen dating violence as a real problem
Know the indicators of teen dating violence
Choose Respect, 2010
American Bar Association, 2006

19. Prevention: Faculty Take students seriously when they confide in you
Encourage classroom discussions on proper relationship behaviors
Talk to students about personal responsibility
Enforce school policy about what is not acceptable (i.e. pinching, smacking, etc)
Require students to treat each other with respect
Address behaviors that desensitize kids and can set the stage for serious forms of abusive behaviors
Stress the responsibility of bystanders when a teen dating violence incident occurs
American Bar Association, 2006

20. Prevention: School Counselor
Stay interested and involved in teens’ lives
Know and recognize the signs
Recognize the problem
Abuse at this age really does happen…and happens to all types of teens
Don’t be swayed by teens and faculty who insist it doesn’t happen in school
Work with teens to create prevention & intervention strategies
Educate students and faculty on warning signs
Help teens set ground rules for “good relationships”
Give teens information with useful phone numbers & resources
Help teens understand the problem and brainstorm possible solutions
Send educational letters home to parents
Intervene appropriately if the students feels they are in danger, if you sense they are in danger, and especially if you know they are in danger
American Bar Association, 2006

21. School Faculty Resources
Chooserespect.org
Loveisrespect.org
Thatsnotcool.com
Loveisnotabuse.com
Loveisnotabuse.com/made
Safeyouth.org
Breakthecycle.org
Athinline.org

22. Still Have Questions? Who Can You Ask For Help…
School counselor or administrator
Domestic Violence Abuse Agencies
ICADV Hotline: Voice & TTY
SRO - School Resource Officer
Child Protective Services
911 if they’re in immediate danger
Remember, as an educator you should always intervene in an appropriate and consistent way in order to respect the privacy of students
(Youtube, 2008)

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