1. THE 3 R’s KIDS NEED FROM EVERYONE! Respect, Responsibility,
& Resilience
Deborah Gilboa, M.D.

2. hap·pi· ness: noun good fortune; pleasure; contentment; joy
INGREDIENTS:
Confidence
Competence
Relationships

3. KID BRAINS Temperament Character Content-free Genetic Biologic
Content-rich
Culture-based
Experience-dependent

4. MOVING TARGETS Character predictors in children/teens Culture-based
Gratitude
Curiosity
Self-control
Grit
Culture-based
Experiential learning

5. If you could wave a magic wand...
Which behavior would you change?

6. THE 3 “R’s” KIDS REALLY NEED
Respect
CONFIDENCE, gratitude, curiousity
Responsibility
COMPETENCE, self-control
Resilience
RELATIONSHIPS, grit

7. RESPECT Tone of voice. Titles of respect. Eye contact Body Language
Secret Code
Negotiating
Privacy
3 sentences; amazing results!

8. RESPONSIBILITY How can I help? Homework Practice Community service
One work ethic; sentences

9. The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!
WHAT IS RESILIENCE?
The ability to RECOVER from ADVERSITY!
What do we know?
Bad things happen.
There are always choices to be made.
Feelings change over time.
Recovery requires tools and experience.
What do people need?
PRACTICE.

10. Who needs it? Adults! Kids! When we are… When they are… Hurt Angry
Scared
Overwhelmed
Stressed!

11. WHAT’S HAPPENING TO ADULTS?
Nurturing
Children, partners, parents, siblings, friends
Working
Jobs, volunteering, continuing education
Reacting
Illness, injury, deadlines, the UNEXPECTED
Exploring
Relationships, finances, communities, opportunities
SEARCHING… for balance

12. WHAT’S THE ANTIDOTE? What do we need? 1. Communication 2. Respect
3. Health
4. Opportunity
5. RESILIENCE

13. HOW DO ADULTS GET IT? Perspective – Control what you can control
Strategies
Clear goals
Accessible, safe stress relievers
Manageable commitments
Well-developed support network
Resources we’re willing to use

14. HOW DO KIDS? “I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”
Mistakes teach resilience.
Praise the process.
Let life teach the lesson.
Choices, within limits.
Encourage some risk-taking.
Reach out for resources!
“I’ll be really interested to see what you do!”

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