1. How Husbands Cope It’s a “guy thing” Bobbit Suntay The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community

2. How husbands cope “I did it, myyyyyy wayyyy…” Personal and unique No “best way” No “rulebook or manual” No “roadmap or guide” Different strokes for different folks

3. Don’t be a Hero! You can’t do it all alone Ask for help/Seek out help Counseling/Support Group Relief from school/work Reach out to family and friends

4. Communicate… Constantly Clearly Accurately Honestly Compassionately …with the person ill with cancer …with loved ones and friends

5. Your “new normal” Explore it Establish it Live it Do your best… …believe you are doing your best

6. Care for yourself “Put your oxygen mask and life vest on before assisting others” Getting sick and/or burnt out makes things harder You need to be at your best (or as close to it) in order to care well

7. Let go and let God Be in “the now” – don’t look back and regret, don’t worry too far ahead. Name your fears and face them Forgive See God’s hand at work Trust that your own way of coping will see you through

8. Don’t rush to be “OK” Let things run their course “Grace abounds the long way around” “Don’t rush to solve the problem; allow the problem to solve you” There are no schedules and timetables Trust the process Don’t allow “adaptive” coping to become “maladaptive”

9. Coping through Caring Making meaning Bringing healing Coping through Carewell

10. The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community Opened our doors in 2006 We provide psycho-social support Dedicated to all persons affected by cancer Resources and services provided free of charge Volunteer-driven Rely on contributions and collaboration The Wellness Community and Gilda’s Club Worldwide (The Cancer Support Community)

11. The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community Support Groups and Counseling Medical Consultations and Referrals Library and Resource Center Wellness and Fun Activities Respite Weekends and Field Trips Talks and Workshops Community of persons with cancer and their loved ones

12. The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community www.carewellcommunity.org info@carewellcommunity.org 751-0242 815-1294 6 th floor of S & L Building Dela Rosa corner Esteban Streets Legaspi Village, Makati City

13. The Carewell Community The Cancer Resource and Wellness Community Cure Magazine 2011 Cancer Resource Guide Caregiving for your loved one with cancer, CancerCare, 2005 The Total Cancer Wellness Guide, Kim Thiboldeaux, 2007 Cancer, Coping, Carewell, Robert Suntay, 2010 Cancer care for the whole patient, National Academy of Sciences, 2008