1. Be A Mentor, Inc. New Mentor Training 1260 B street, #375 Hayward CA, 94541 (510) 795-6488

2. Training Guidelines Maintain Confidentiality Be here now-No cell phones Respect differences Refer back to training guide HAVE FUN!!!

3. What is today’s training about? Better understanding issues and factors facing our youth today. Understand the role of a mentor. Understand and demonstrate practices of a skilled mentor:

4. What is the Project Manager’s Job (My Job)? Recruit and Interview the Youth (or Mentee) Interview Mentors Complete Paperwork Hold Match Meeting Monitor the Quality of Match

6. Why Youth Need Mentors Peer Pressure Substance Abuse Sexuality Social Skills Child Abuse Family Violence Anger Management Depression/Suicide Nutrition & Health Home Pressure Goal Setting Part-time Work Failing Grades Absenteeism

7. From The Kid’s Eyes! Forget about what YOU think a youth needs. Why would a young person want to be friends with you?

8. Our Youth Say a Mentor Is… Easy to talk to A role model/Someone to look up to Is a friend Shows us new things Is not a parent Does not judge us Is understanding Is FUN! Won’t get mad Has Knowledge Encourages us Listens to us Is open-minded Is sympathetic Is trustworthy Gives guidance Respects us

9. Role of the Mentor Academic Help Goal Setting Career Exploration Assistance Emotional Support Exposure to new things

10. Skills of an Effective Mentor Focus on the positive Keeps Relationships Alive Involves Youth in Decisions Respects Youth Viewpoints Is Committed Communicates Constantly Allows Youth to Make Mistakes An Effective Mentor Has Fun

11. TOP 5 Mentoring Mistakes 1.Doesn’t maintain boundries 2.Sporadic Meetings 3.Authority Figure/Transform Youth 4.Demands/expects Equal Participation 5.Does not ask for help from Project Manager (Be A Mentor Staff)

13. Stages in Relationship – It’s a Rollercoaster Ride! “Honeymoon” Period Trust Friendship Testing

14. Culture Cultures are multifaceted: Family structure, Spirituality, Language, Culture is a set of mental rules for survival and success that a particular group of people has developed. (not skin color, language spoke or food eaten) Foster Care and Children of Prisoners Culture?

15. Login Hours and Activities www.beamentor.org Select a mentee Activity Date Time Comments Login Email address Password Activity Form

16. Mentor Commitment Averaging once a week visits Weekly telephone contact Document activities/hours Keeps contact with parents Attend Mentor Support Meetings Attend mentor events

17. Confidentiality When do I break it? How should I break it?

18. Thank You 4 Coming! Please, Help Make Us Better! Take a few minutes to fill out an evaluation