2. D ON ’ T S TAND B Y … B E A N A LLY A N A NTI -B ULLYING P RESENTATION Ms. Mauerman Intro Music

3. T HE P OWER OF O NE … T HE P OWER OF AN A LLY ! The Power of YOU

4. Stop !

5. Hey !... That ’ s not funny ! Stop.

6. You ’ re such a loser ! Stop it … leave him alone !

8. A N A LLY IS S OMEONE W HO … Sticks up for you Takes a stand against bullying Helps you when you need it most

10. W HAT IS B ULLYING ? HARM: Aggressive behavior - intent to harm. TIME: Repeats over time. POWER: Imbalance of power or strength.

11. P ROFILE OF A B ULLY What do they look like? Why do they bully?

12. Q UICK Q UIZ … W HICH OF T HESE W ORDS D ESCRIBE B ULLIES ? Not Funny Not so muscular Old Average Young Not so smart Large Not so popular Fat Small Tall Smart Muscular Popular Thin Short Not so average Funny

13. No Empathy Get Attention Gain Popularity Feel Important Feel Big and Powerful Family Risk Factors Peer Risk Factors Victims Themselves

14. T YPES OF B ULLYING Physical Verbal Social Cyber-Bullying

15. P HYSICAL Hitting Shoving Grabbing Kicking Spitting Flicking Threatening gestures Tripping Punching Stealing Bumping someone on purpose Destroying or hiding someone’s belongings

16. V ERBAL Threats Lies, Rumors Insulting Family Harassing (gender, race, religion, size, intellect) Teasing Name-Calling Sticks and Stones Will Break My Bones…but Words Will or Wont Hurt Me?

18. S OCIAL Dirty looks Refusing to talk to someone Telling others not to be someone’s friend Spreading rumors Gossiping Making fun of someone Mimicking Ditching/Leaving out

19. C YBER - BULLYING I S B ULLYING BY U SING T ECHNOLOGY :

21. Sending mean messages on the computer or cell phone Posting embarrassing photos online Creating a website to make fun of someone Threatening or harassing someone online Pretending to be someone else online “Sexting” Spreading gossip/rumors online

22. Do You Use the Internet?

23. What about Texting?

24. Facebook, Twitter, MySpace?

25. Do You Use Them To Say Mean Things About Others?

26. Do You Ever SEE Mean Things Said About Others?

27. Have You Ever Seen Things Like…?

28. I hate you! You suck! You’re such a loser! Fag You’re so ugly That was stupid! Slut That’s so Gay! Beeotch Sevie

29. Or Any Other Mean/Hurtful Things Posted On The Internet?

30. And You Don’t SAY or DO Something About It?

31. Then You’re Being A Bystander To Bullying

32. Nobody Deserves To Be Cyber-Bullied

33. Do Something… Tell An Adult Offer Help

34. YOU Can Make A Huge Difference!!!

35. CYBERBULLYING … If You Wouldn ’ t Say it in Person … DON ’ T Say it Online !!!

38. EMPATHY The ability to identify with and understand somebody else’s feelings or difficulties.

39. A N A LLY IS S OMEONE W HO … Has EMPATHY!

42. B ULLYING R OLES

43. ARE YOU A BULLY BYSTANDER ???

44. W HAT DOES YOUR SCORE MEAN ?? 0 points: Never a Bystander -Congratulations! You are not the type to witness bullying and silently stand by. You understand that bystanders have power and are willing to step in when needed! Keep it up! 2-6 points: Bystander Beware -Chances are that you don’t bully your peers on a day-to-day basis but may stand by while someone else is being bullied without helping. 7-15 points: No Innocent Bystander -You may have said or done things to others that are emotionally harmful or wrong. You have either actively participated in bullying or have encouraged it. You may want to join a different friend group if your bullying is due to peer pressure and vow not to be involved in hurting another ever again. More than 15 points: Bully Bystander -You are headed down a dangerous and hurtful road for you and the people you victimize. You do not show compassion for those around you and may not even feel remorse for what happens to others due to your actions. You are headed towards legal problems and regret if you don’t change your ways!

45. W HY DO BYSTANDERS JUST WATCH ? -38% believe it ’ s “none of their business” -27% want to do something … but don ’ t … because … Why Do Bystanders “Stand By” and Watch ? (35% do something )

46. D ON ’ T H ELP B ECAUSE … “The victim deserves the bullying” “They ’ re just playing around … it ’ s funny” “I won ’ t be as popular if I help that person” “I don ’ t want to be labeled as a “snitch” ! ” “If I step in … I will become the next target”

47. BULLYING…

49. “W HAT IF THE B ULLY T URNS ON ME?” SAFETY IN NUMBERS NORMAL feeling!

51. Think Before You Post

52. -Who is this going to hurt? -How will it hurt them? -How will this affect me? -What are the consequences?

54. A N A LLY IS S OMEONE W HO … Sticks up for you Helps you when you need it Takes a stand…lends a hand. Ally Example (Bully Bystander)

55. From HRM ’ s BULLY BYSTANDERS : You Can Make a Difference

56. He ’ s not my friend … it ’ s none of my business It is your business!!!

57. D ON ’ T S TAND B Y … B E AN A LLY !! Did you know… --That if one person watching a bullying situation says "Stop it!", half the time the bullying will stop? --When you stand by and do nothing you’re saying that bullying is okay with you. It makes you no better than the bully themselves.

58. So What Could You Say?..... ???

59. A LLIES ARE THE K EY TO S TOP B ULLYING You could say… “Come on leave him alone.” “That’s not cool!” “We don’t do that here!” “Let’s get out of here!” “Hey! That’s not funny.” “Stop!” with eye contact

60. W HAT Y OU C AN D O … AS AN A LLY Speak up!...use your voice Don’t give the bully an audience! Be there!...stand next to the person being bullied.

61. Sometimes Words Aren’t Necessary…Our Actions Show our Support “Red” “Little Red Riding Hood” “The Price of Silence”

62. At lunch time, Ethan is drinking at the water fountain when Ty and Mike walk by and push his head into the flow of water. Paige who is watching from across the hall, is upset by what she sees…but doesn’t know what to do. Her friend, Kylie steps up and tells the bullies to stop. However, they look at her, laugh and continue what they are doing. Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander? Potential ways to handle this situation? S AMPLE S CENARIO

63. Every day, Marta gets on the bus only to be bothered by the other girls in the front seats. They comment on her clothes and make fun of her book bag. Luckily, Shania lets her sit with her, but she does not talk to Marta. Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander? Potential ways to handle this situation? S CENARIO 1

64. Jose, the new kid in class, speaks little English, and when he does, he has a very strong Brazilian accent. The kids in his class make fun of the way he speaks and laugh at him. The teacher tells them to calm down but does not punish anyone. Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander? Potential ways to handle this situation? S CENARIO 2

65. Whenever she is at her locker, Clara notices a boy from her class silently staring at her and watching every move she makes. It makes her really uncomfortable. She tells her friend Lashonda who tells her to ignore him, but he does not stop, even when she finally says something. Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander? Potential ways to handle this situation? S CENARIO 3

66.  Ralph is sick and tired of being picked on in PE class for being much shorter than the other guys and finally decides to strike back one day. When one of the bigger guys says something, he turns around and knocks him down. The other kids in the class gather around and cheer the fight on until the teacher breaks it up.  Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander?  Potential ways to handle this situation? S CENARIO 4

67. Charlotte is having a party on Friday night and everyone is invited except Tonya. Charlotte talks about her party to all her other friends even in front of Tonya, and she makes sure Tonya knows about the party and that she will be the topic of conversations when she is not there. Bully? Target? Ally? Bystander? Potential ways to handle this situation? S CENARIO 5

68. W HAT Y OU C AN D O … I F Y OU A RE B EING B ULLIED Ignore the bully Walk away Laugh it off…use humor to make the situation better Stand up to the bully in a non-violent way Be assertive “Stop it, I don’t like what you are doing.” Report the bullying to a trusted adult

69. M OST I MPORTANT T HING Y OU C AN D O … I F Y OU A RE B EING B ULLIED Never be alone… Find a friend or an ALLY!

70. B UDDY B OX Anonymous way to report bullying If you are being bullied If you see someone else being bullied If you are a bully and want help Forms are provided next to box. Box is located near the front office An adult will look at the report and address the situation appropriately

71. What is the difference between teasing & bullying ?

72. When someone isn’t laughing or smiling

73. DON’T LAUGH AT THE EXPENSE OF OTHERS!!!

74. T HE P OWER OF O NE … T HE P OWER OF AN A LLY ! T HE P OWER OF YOU YOU can make all the difference. Dare to stand up for someone being bullied. Dare to stand WITH someone being bullied!

75. From HRM ’ s BULLY BYSTANDERS : You Can Make a Difference

77. F OR M ORE I NFORMATION … Contact HRM for an excellent resource used in this presentation… BULLY BYSTANDERS: You Can Make a Difference (DVD Version) Human Relations Media 41 Kensico Drive Mount Kisco, NY 10549 1-800-431-2050