1. In society Males are supposed to be…..
In control of situations
Like competition and like to win
Be aggressive
Be dominant
Take care of females
Be forceful
Be powerful
Be unemotional
Be strong

2. In society Females are supposed to be…..
Emotional
Polite and accommodating
Passive
Submissive
Attentive to needs of others
Nonaggressive
Dependant
Gentle
Weak
attractive

3. “Have you heard”
Overhead - P.120 Michigan model

4. Abusive Relationships
Can be:
Emotionally abusive –
name calling,
put-downs, blaming,
telling someone they are crazy
public or private humiliation
false accusations of flirting or infidelity
threatening physical harm or sexual abuse,
isolate from family and friends

5. Abusive Relationships
Physically abusive –
Hitting
Slapping
punching
kicking
pinching
use of weapons

6. Abusive Relationships
Sexually Abusive –
Forcing another person to do something sexual they do not want to do, even if they have been dating for a long time
Rape
Any sexual activity that makes another person uncomfortable

7. Cycle of Abuse see overhead p. 122

8. Cycle of Abuse Stage one – Tension builds
Abuser becomes edgy and tense
Easily irritated
Partner may feel scared or nervous and try to keep abuser happy

9. Abusive Relationships
Stage 2 – Explosion
Abuser becomes more aggressive and verbally or physically attacks their partner
Partner may feel like he or she deserved the abuse and most likely will try to cover up

10. Abusive Relationships
Stage 3 – The honeymoon
The abuser attempts to keep the relationship together
Promises it won’t happen again
Give gifts
Apologetic, passionate, romantic
Partner believes that they can change abuser or be “good enough” so it won’t happen again

11. Abusive Relationships
Cycle of abuse will continue unless professional help is gotten, no matter what abuser says during the honeymoon period

12. Warning signs P. 123 mml13