1. When Love Dies Presentation by Jamie Knopf PSY 546 Week 7 Additional Assignment

2. What is marital disaffection? It “is the gradual loss of an emotional attachment...” (Kayser, 6)

3. The demographics of the study 49 spouses Ages: 21-68 None were married to each other Years married to their partner: 2-39

4. The phases of marital disaffection Phase One: Disappointment

5. Disappointment Feelings: Anger, hurt, disillusionment. Thoughts: Awareness, unmet expectations, assuming responsibility. Behaviors: Attempts to solve problems, please partner, avoids and passively copes.

6. The phases of marital disaffection Phase One: Disappointment Phase Two: Between disappointment and disaffection.

7. Between Disappointment & Disaffection Feelings: Intense anger & hurt Thoughts: Negative traits are pattern; evaluating rewards and costs; considering staying or going Behaviors: Attempts to solve, but more directly; begins withdrawal from marriage

8. The phases of marital disaffection Phase One: Disappointment Phase Two: Between disappointment and disaffection. Phase Three: Reaching disaffection

9. Reaching Disaffection Feelings: Anger, apathy, hopelessness Thoughts: Planning to end marriage; still evaluates costs & rewards; focusing on negatives & blaming the partner Behaviors: Actions to dissolve marriage; problem solving; seeks counseling

10. What causes disaffection? Mutuality and control Lack of emotional intimacy Ineffective conflict resolution Attributions for problems Individual Happiness more important Alternative attractions

11. For the CFLE Importance of premarital ministry. Marital support and ministry at the church or community organization. Marriage resources.

12. Most importantly… “ Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love, just as Christ love us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.” –Ephesians 5: 1-2

13. Reference Kayser, Karen. (1993). When Love Dies. The Guilford Press, New York, NY.