1. Chapter 10: Adult Relationships

2. Friendships « Adult Process acquaintanceship buildup continuation deterioration ending

3. Friendship Themes « Affective Basis self-disclosure intimacy appreciation affection support *Based on trust, loyalty, commitment* « Shared or communal nature « Sociability - Compatibility

4. Gender Differences Women « more intimate « more emotional sharing « confide in others Men « more shared interests « more competitive « competition emphasizes social interaction rather than outcome « less intimate

5. Cross-Gender Friendships « May explore opposite gender’s tasks or skills « Men may try to sexualize cross gender relationships « Women may be offended at this « Decrease after marriage for men « Increase with age for women

6. Love Relationships « LikingI « InfatuationP « Empty LoveC « Romantic LovePI « Fatuous LoveP « Companionate LoveIC « Consommate LovePIC

7. Falling in Love « Assortative Mating « Similarity

8. Murstein’s Theory on Falling in Love « Stimulus: Appearance complementary? « Values: Sex - Religion - Politics - Match? « Role: Relationship Communication Style Gender Role Match?

9. Dark Side Verbal Physical Severe Aggression Aggression Aggression Insults Pushing Beating Sarcasm Shaking Punching Yelling Slapping Hitting w/ Name Shoving object calling Bruising Bondage = MURDER

10. Causes of Verbal Aggression « Need to control « Misuse of power « Jealousy « Family discord

11. Causes of Physical Aggression All of # 1 Causes plus … « Accept violence as a means of control « Modeling of physical aggression « Abused as child « Aggressive personality style « Alcohol abuse

12. Causes of Severe Aggression All of # 1 and # 2 plus … « Personality D/O’s « Emotional lability « Poor self esteem *Contributing factors: job stress and unemployment *Battered Woman Syndrome

13. Relationships « Single hood « Cohabitation « Gay and Lesbian couples « Marriage early years midlife older couples

14. Keeping Marriage Happy « Make time for each other « Express love « Be there in times of need « Communicate positively + constructively « Be interested in spouse’s life « Confide in spouse « Forgive minor offenses « Try to understand major offenses

15. Family Life Cycle Changes « Nuclear Family « Extended Family « Family Life Cycle (Weakness - ignores child free relationships) « Should we have children? « Parental Role « Single Parents « Divorce - Why?

16. Effects on Couple « Effects on young children « Effects on adult children « Remarriage