1. Habit 4: Think WIN-WIN Life is an all-you-can-eat buffet… there is enough for everyone!!!

2. What does Habit 4 say?  Habit 1 says, “I am the driver in my life. I have control”  Habit 2 says, “Choose a path, plan ahead and draw a map to get there (start with checking the car + the gas).”  Habit 3 says, “Prioritize and get there, DO IT! Don’t let fear stop you from realizing your dreams”  Habit 4 says, “I can do it, and so can you”

3. I can and you can too  Thinking “win-win” a mental frame of mind; a perception; a belief = “we are all able”  It’s the foundation for getting along well with others.  In order for “win-win” to work, there has to be REAL care and concern for the other person’s feelings.

4. What’s your mental frame of mind? Win-lose: Totem pole Lose-win: Doormat Lose-lose: Tornado Win-win

5. Win-lose: characteristics  Sees life as a never ending competition.  Advances in life by stepping on others.  Likes making others feel bad or inferior.  Spreads rumours, is envious/jealous.  Measure their PBA (self-confidence) by the number of victims they have (bully)

6. Lose-win: characteristics  Doormat: people step all over him/her.  Sacrifices values/principles to please others.  Avoids conflict at all costs.  Can have low self-esteem.  Yes-man syndrome + victim virus.  Sets low expectations and compromises his/her standards.

7. Lose-lose: characteristics  Revengeful attitude.  No one wins, both sides lose.  “If I can’t win, neither can you!”  Can be the result of two win-lose people in a conflict.  Examples: boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, divorce, war, etc.

8. Win-win: characteristics  Finds a solution based on compromise.  Will not step on others, or be stepped on.  Takes into consideration the feelings of the other party involved.  Believes there is a way that both parties can benefit.

9. How to think win-win Being secure with yourself is the key to thinking win-win  Avoid the tumor twins: COMPETITION: the “win-at-any-cost” attitude COMPARISON: we expect everyone to be the same; but everyone is different and develops differently;  Life is an obstacle course: each has his/her own path. There is no use for comparing.

10. What happens if you can’t come to a win-win solution?  NO DEAL!  To see whether you’ve applied a win-win solution: check your feelings! (Do you feel happy? Are both parties happy?)

11. Homework: